Category: Encouragement

Not Blaming: Who does it benefit?

Not Blaming: Who does it benefit? I would argue refusing to assign blame in a situation with marital infidelity “benefits” the cheater. They get to be treated as if what happened was either a shared problem or an unfortunate event (both lies, by the way). In other words, they get to avoid taking responsibility for … Continue reading “Not Blaming: Who does it benefit?”

THAT “Christian”

Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth. -I John 3:18, NIV There is a type. Something was “off” with him. Sure, this person had all the appearances of righteous Christian. He talked about “grace” and “repentance.” Yet something did not “square.” His words and actions, ultimately, did … Continue reading “THAT “Christian””

“How long, O Lord?!” cries the oppressed.

How long will my enemy triumph over me? -Psalm 13:2b, NIV When enduring the many injustices of marriage infidelity discovery, this is a common refrain of the heart. Life is very unfair. It seems like the cheater is “getting away with it.” The cheater seems so happy. They are get the thrills and you are … Continue reading ““How long, O Lord?!” cries the oppressed.”

God is not surprised or overwhelmed

 For hasn’t he promised you, “I will never leave you alone, never! And I will not loosen my grip on your life!” -Hebrews 13:5b, TPT A temptation when facing difficult circumstances is to believe we are on our own. It may feel that way, for sure. I know I felt it. The abandonment feelings are … Continue reading “God is not surprised or overwhelmed”

Do not take marriage advice from unrepentant cheaters!

Why do we take advice from an unrepentant cheater? I know I am not the only one who did. At least, I did this for a time. I opened myself up to her criticism as if she was qualified to identify “the problems.” This likely comes from a desperation to “save the marriage.” A solution … Continue reading “Do not take marriage advice from unrepentant cheaters!”

99 Cents Divorce Minister book for limited time!

In celebration of the blog’s sixth anniversary, I have decided to put my eBook on sale for $0.99 from Monday, July 13th through Sunday, July 19th, 2020! For less than one US dollar, you can gain access to the eBook version of my work here. In this book, I cover the basic topics of the … Continue reading “99 Cents Divorce Minister book for limited time!”

Divorce Minister Blog Ministry Turns Six Years Old!

Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously has existed for six years as of today! This ministry started as a way to share my thoughts on the important topic of marital infidelity and divorce. In fact, I first thought very few people would be interested in what I wrote. I grossly underestimated my audience. Divorce Minister continues to … Continue reading “Divorce Minister Blog Ministry Turns Six Years Old!”

DM, How did you move forward into a new relationship with Mrs. DM?

Hi DM, Question for you. How were you able to move forward with Mrs. DM with regards to trust? I am most likely getting divorced and am afraid that I would carry the scars of my WH’s serial infidelity/dishonesty into the next relationship (if I were to be brave enough to try to love again). … Continue reading “DM, How did you move forward into a new relationship with Mrs. DM?”