Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. -Proverbs 31:10, KJV Today is our wedding anniversary. Mrs. DM and I have been married six years. The length of our marriage soon will eclipse the length of my first stormy one. The irony of this proverb is how I had the … Continue reading “Tale of Two 6th Anniversaries”
Category: Encouragement
Spurned Love
“Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing.” -Matthew 23:37, NIV Spurned love. I do not believe a faithful spouse never loved their cheater. We did. … Continue reading “Spurned Love”
Divorce Minister is back!!!
I’m back. Thanks for your understanding regarding the break. So much is happening right now with my move regarding my day job. So, I might occasionally have to hit pause on my daily postings. But I will return… I know how much it means to have a daily reminder of support when going through infidelity … Continue reading “Divorce Minister is back!!!”
Oh, the difference!
A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. -Proverbs 31:10, MSG Eight years ago, I was in a much different place around this time. It was the season my first marriage imploded. All sorts of horrors came forth during that season. Yet God sustained me. He was there with me … Continue reading “Oh, the difference!”
Buckle your spiritual seat belts!
For your shame ye shall have double; and for confusion they shall rejoice in their portion: therefore in their land they shall possess the double: everlasting joy shall be unto them. -Isaiah 61:7, KJV When we think of some circumstance happening, we can easily gravitate to sudden catastrophes. That is what discovering a cheater was, after all. That … Continue reading “Buckle your spiritual seat belts!”
Listen of Love or Fear? Your choice.
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV When faced with stressful circumstances, are you going to listen to Love or Fear? Fear tells us that it is too much. It intimidates. Fear tries to get us to … Continue reading “Listen of Love or Fear? Your choice.”
Spiritual trauma best addressed by faithful pastors
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. -Proverbs 17:22, NIV Much of the suffering faithful spouses experience is spiritual in nature. Writing this blog for a couple of years, the questions I encounter center around deep spiritual pain and confusion. These are not so much the nuts and … Continue reading “Spiritual trauma best addressed by faithful pastors”
The Second Betrayal for Faithful Spouse Pastors
If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other. -Galatians 5:15, NIV When you tell your denomination or church about your cheating spouse and the divorce, the hope is for support. Sadly, this hope is often dashed by evangelical leaders who are stuck in ungodly divorce prejudice. … Continue reading “The Second Betrayal for Faithful Spouse Pastors”
Healing comes in time. It does.
Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted. -Matthew 5:4, KJV Today, I was struck by the progress I have made in my healing journey. This came to mind as I was listening to someone teach on leaving an abuser. Fresh off my divorce, this teaching would have been too painful for me. … Continue reading “Healing comes in time. It does.”
Pro-Tip: Marry a bad liar for Spouse 2.0!
Pro-Tip: Marry a Bad Liar One of Mrs. DM’s many endearing traits is that she is a bad liar. I can tell when she is trying to fool me…usually. My ex-wife was (and is?) an excellent liar in my opinion. And that is not a complement. It is my observation. It was chilling how well … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Marry a bad liar for Spouse 2.0!”