Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “The Lord has taken away your sin. You are not going to die. But because by doing this you have shown utter contempt for the Lord, the son born to you will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NIV Forgiveness does NOT wipe out all consequences for the … Continue reading “God forgave, and yet King David still faced consequences for his sins!”
Category: Forgiveness
Repenteance first is how godly forgiveness has always worked!
If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land. -2 Chronicles 7:14, KJV “IF….and turn from their wicked ways; THEN…will forgive their sin….” … Continue reading “Repenteance first is how godly forgiveness has always worked!”
Backhanded cheater admissions
Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others. -Proverbs 12:15, NLT Sometimes the only thing a cheater might admit to doing wrong is a backhanded admission. What do I mean by “backhanded admission?” “I apologize for not speaking up sooner to tell you how you aren’t meeting my ‘needs.’” “My … Continue reading “Backhanded cheater admissions”
Is God doing this forgiveness thing wrong, then?!
Seek the Lord while He may be found, Call upon Him while He is near. Let the wicked forsake his way, And the unrighteous man his thoughts; Let him return to the Lord, And He will have mercy on him; And to our God, For He will abundantly pardon. -Isaiah 55:6-7, NKJV Is God doing this forgiveness thing wrong here? … Continue reading “Is God doing this forgiveness thing wrong, then?!”
A prayer to help in the healing process
Here’s a prayer I wrote for anyone struggling letting go of anger towards a cheater and their apologist(s). This prayer serves as a reminder that we have a say in letting go of our anger, which is based on our trust in God’s character. In my experience, we have to practice choosing to let go over and … Continue reading “A prayer to help in the healing process”
Stopping the sex is NOT enough!
While it is important that the cheating stops, the damage has already been done. Stopping is not the same as repairing. I think this needs to be said. The temptation exists to ignore the damage caused by the cheating as long as “it is over.” Why? The aftermath is not pleasant. It leads to uncomfortable … Continue reading “Stopping the sex is NOT enough!”
Friendly divorce narrative
But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. -Matthew 5:32, NIV “Yeah, we weren’t right for each other. But we are still friends,” says a divorcee. Within Christian circles, the friendly divorce seems to … Continue reading “Friendly divorce narrative”
Who is eligible for forgiveness per Jesus? The repentant.
It was also written that this message would be proclaimed in the authority of his name to all the nations, beginning in Jerusalem: ‘There is forgiveness of sins for all who repent.’ -Luke 24:47, NLT Often faithful spouses are pushed to forgive with no reference to the cheater’s repentance. As these words attributed to Jesus by … Continue reading “Who is eligible for forgiveness per Jesus? The repentant.”
PSA: Forgiveness does not have the power to alter historical facts!
It still feels strange for me to even speak about how my first marriage ended. I feel internal pressure and accusation as if speaking the facts means I have not forgiven her or am bitter. That’s a lie, by the way. But it is a hard one to shake growing up amidst a Christian subculture … Continue reading “PSA: Forgiveness does not have the power to alter historical facts!”
Presuming too much?! Enough is enough.
Are you not to judge those inside [the church]? God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked person from among you.” -I Corinthians 5:12b-13, NIV Is enough ever enough to stop enabling cheaters in the church? I am so thankful for God’s extravagant mercy and grace. It is what made the way for me to have … Continue reading “Presuming too much?! Enough is enough.”