–A Book Review– The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping Spiritual Manipulation and False Spiritual Authority Within the Church by (Pastor) David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen Much of my work on this blog is dealing with spiritual abuse surrounding infidelity discovery and its aftermath including divorce. The literature for Christian faithful spouses on … Continue reading “Book Review: THE SUBTLE POWER OF SPIRITUAL ABUSE by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen”
Category: Forgiveness
God Does Not Pursue Forever Either!
“Then He will also say to those on the left hand, ‘Depart from Me, you cursed, into the everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels….’” – Matthew 25:41, NKJV Somehow evangelical theology has become so twisted as to promote a distorted picture of God. This picture states that God is always in pursuit … Continue reading “God Does Not Pursue Forever Either!”
Narrative From Pastors Needs Changing
“‘If a man divorces a woman and she goes and marries someone else, he will not take her back again, for that would surely corrupt the land. But you have prostituted yourself with many lovers, so why are you trying to come back to me?’ says the Lord.” -Jeremiah 3:1, NLT “If another believer sins, rebuke … Continue reading “Narrative From Pastors Needs Changing”
Pastors, Why Not Treat Adultery As Abuse?
If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? -I John 4:20, NKJV What bothers–and astounds–me is how typical infidelity or adultery is treated as a symptom or side-issue … Continue reading “Pastors, Why Not Treat Adultery As Abuse?”
The Broken Vase Parable
Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been … Continue reading “The Broken Vase Parable”
Is Telling Unforgiving?
A third time he asked him, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” Peter was hurt that Jesus asked the question a third time. He said, “Lord, you know everything. You know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Then feed my sheep.” -John 21:17, NIV Is it unforgiving to tell people that your marriage … Continue reading “Is Telling Unforgiving?”
That Which Shall Never Be Mentioned Again–AKA The Affair
“This is what the Lord says: Because of what you have done, I will cause your own household to rebel against you. I will give your wives to another man before your very eyes, and he will go to bed with them in public view.” … Then David confessed to Nathan, “I have sinned against … Continue reading “That Which Shall Never Be Mentioned Again–AKA The Affair”
When we are talking months, years, or even decades of cheating…
Dear friends, if we deliberately continue sinning after we have received knowledge of the truth, there is no longer any sacrifice that will cover these sins. -Hebrews 10:26, NLT The longer someone has led a double-life of cheating, the less likely they will be able to repent and change. What sacrifice remains to cover that … Continue reading “When we are talking months, years, or even decades of cheating…”
Refuse To Get Sucked Into Their Warped Reality
There is more hope for fools than for people who think they are wise. –Proverbs 26:12, NLT They traded the truth about God for a lie…. –Romans 1:25a, NLT Cheaters can come across as so confident in their lies. This confidence has the power to make even the most stalwart faithful spouse second-guess their instincts, hard evidence, … Continue reading “Refuse To Get Sucked Into Their Warped Reality”
What If I Want Her To Burn In Hell?
God is an honest judge. He is angry with the wicked every day. – Psalm 7:11, NLT What if I want him/her to burn in Hell… for what he/she did to me (and the kids)? Anger is an appropriate response to evil perpetrated against one. And I think God is understanding of this strong emotional … Continue reading “What If I Want Her To Burn In Hell?”