“I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or is a drunkard, or cheats people. Don’t even eat with such people.” -I Corinthians 5:11, NLT One of the many pains associated with discovering … Continue reading “No, hanging out with Cheater is NOT okay!”
Category: Grief
Painful discard
He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their faces he was despised, and we held him in low esteem. -Isaiah 53:3, NIV The divorce discard is painful. Some Cheaters cling to their marriage, and other Cheaters complete the rejection by filing for divorce. … Continue reading “Painful discard”
Grief gets us stuck sometimes
His family all tried to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. “I will go to my grave mourning for my son,” he would say, and then he would weep. -Genesis 37:35, NLT Grief gets us stuck sometimes. It is a lot of loss all at once to discover your spouse’s double-life. You have … Continue reading “Grief gets us stuck sometimes”
Just a photo
It was just a photo. I saw a picture of an old “friend” who chose my Cheater and turned against me in the end. One photo brought back all sorts of feelings. Mostly, it brought back grief. My last contact with this couple was a text from the husband on the day that my divorce … Continue reading “Just a photo”
Unwanted–initially–path
“…when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go.” -John 21:18b, NIV Unfortunately, I was the first. Somehow, my huge family had never experienced a divorce on either side of the immediate family. But I became the first … Continue reading “Unwanted–initially–path”
Relief of knowing!
Relief. The months of stone-cold or downright cruel responses. Warmth disappearing overnight like a Minnesotan May blizzard. It all started to make sense. I wasn’t imagining things. The Other Man. He existed. Had existed for months! This is one of the strangest and most surreal parts of discovering infidelity. The moment of confirmation is not only … Continue reading “Relief of knowing!”
Make it stop!
My tears have been my food day and night, while people say to me all day long, “Where is your God?” -Psalm 42:3, NIV Just make it stop! I remember how this was the feeling I had early in my divorce process from my Cheater. It made me vulnerable to doing some soppy, chumpy things. Sometimes, … Continue reading “Make it stop!”
Healing requires reality acceptance
O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, thou that killest the prophets, and stonest them which are sent unto thee, how often would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings, and ye would not! -Matthew 23:37, KJV Healing Requires Reality Acceptance We have to put down our “should’s” in order … Continue reading “Healing requires reality acceptance”
Happy Easter! Christ is risen!!!
Early on the first day of the week, while it was still dark, Mary Magdalene went to the tomb and saw that the stone had been removed from the entrance. -John 20:1, NIV My Cheater left me around Easter-time back over a decade ago. So, the holiday holds some complex emotions for me. So, if you … Continue reading “Happy Easter! Christ is risen!!!”
Happy Holy Saturday!
52 Going to Pilate, he asked for Jesus’ body. 53 Then he took it down, wrapped it in linen cloth and placed it in a tomb cut in the rock, one in which no one had yet been laid. -Luke 23:52-53, NIV Holy Saturday Within the Christian tradition, we recognize the day between Good Friday and Easter as … Continue reading “Happy Holy Saturday!”