And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light. -2 Corinthians 11:14, KJV While discovering adultery is awful, I think some of the more lasting pain comes from the positive experiences one had while married to a cheater. These memories–whether built on a lie or not–suggest things could have been otherwise. … Continue reading “Good memories bring the pain”
Category: Grief
Just because you can’t see it now…DON’T GIVE UP HOPE!!!
To all who mourn in Israel… …a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. -ISAIAH 61:3a, b, NLT When my divorce was fresh, I remember feeling great sadness over the thought of losing the opportunity to be a father. That was six years ago. It was a dark time. … Continue reading “Just because you can’t see it now…DON’T GIVE UP HOPE!!!”
Community Divorce Grief
Divorce impacts a community. Like the sin of adultery, it is not a private affair (see Deut. 22:22). The divorce hits the whole network of relationships. It is painful to face the reality that a couple is no longer a couple. This is doubly so when you like and connected with both spouses. This way … Continue reading “Community Divorce Grief”
Six years later…
Today is a negative anniversary. And a positive one retrospectively. Six years ago to this day, I received a message from my divorce lawyer notifying me that my marriage to my first wife was officially and legally ended. I was officially single (and divorced). Each anniversary, the pain has been less and less. … Continue reading “Six years later…”
It is a complicated grief.
Grief hurts. It surprises even years after the loss. You might think you have “dealt with that” only to discover feelings ambush you at some surprise moment. Our culture does not do grief well. Churches can be especially bad on this number. This is particularly true as it comes to the grief associated with a … Continue reading “It is a complicated grief.”
Grief Smack From Nowhere
In the day of my trouble I sought the Lord; My hand was stretched out in the night without ceasing; My soul refused to be comforted. -Psalm 77:2, NKJV Grief gets me with positive memories or associations from the past. It is strange like that. Years of never thinking about something or someone are suddenly … Continue reading “Grief Smack From Nowhere”
The Rejected Ones Tribe
Jesus is “‘the stone you builders rejected, which has become the cornerstone.’ Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.” -Acts 4:11-12, NIV How is Jesus identified by the Apostle Peter on Pentecost? He is The Rejected One. This … Continue reading “The Rejected Ones Tribe”
A song memorializing the difficulty of walking away…
***My eBook is releasing next Monday, November 12th!!! Get your copy now while it is still on the low price of only $4.99.*** A popular song on the radio caught my attention the other day. It is by Dean Lewis, “Be Alright”– This beautiful song memorializes the pain of dealing with infidelity discovery. It also … Continue reading “A song memorializing the difficulty of walking away…”
Both/And NOT Either/Or, Pastors!
***My eBook is releasing in less than a week!!! Monday, November 12th. Get your copy now while it is still on the low price of only $4.99.*** THE “EITHER/OR”: EITHER you support marriages OR you support those going through divorce. When Mrs. DM and I were at our former church, I proposed to offer my services … Continue reading “Both/And NOT Either/Or, Pastors!”
Questioning faithful spouses over “their part”
The fathers shall not be put to death for the children, neither shall the children be put to death for the fathers: every man shall be put to death for his own sin. – Deuteronomy 24:16, KJV “What did you contribute to the breakdown of your marriage?” -Inquiring Christian I do not like this sort … Continue reading “Questioning faithful spouses over “their part””