They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that! -2 Timothy 3:5, NLT A type of person emerged during my dark season. This is the type of person that the author of 2 Timothy warns us about in his letter. It is the … Continue reading “Good Advice: Stay away!”
Category: Sin
Name it! Call it for what it is.
But Jesus said, “Judas, would you betray the Son of Man with a kiss?” -Luke 22:48, NLT As I work to prepare for Easter, I was struck by this exchange. Notice how Jesus calls out the action for what it was. Jesus labels it betrayal and points out the especially awful means of that betrayal–namely, … Continue reading “Name it! Call it for what it is.”
Really?! A pass for emotional affairs.
But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. -Matthew 5:28, NIV Too often, emotional affairs are treated by Christians and professionals as symptoms as opposed to sins. Clearly, Jesus saw emotional affairs as sins. They were only symptomatic insofar as they are … Continue reading “Really?! A pass for emotional affairs.”
Never did call his number
I discovered many calls and texts between my (now) ex-wife and her adultery partner. They were at all times of the day and night. One of my counselors asked if I was interested in calling the Other Man (OM). I really was not interested. Looking back, I think I did not want to engage this … Continue reading “Never did call his number”
Seemed to start good…
Most of the crowd spread their garments on the road ahead of him, and others cut branches from the trees and spread them on the road. -Matthew 21:8, NLT When we married, we likely had no idea our marriage would end the way it did. It was a happy day. Sure, the saying goes that … Continue reading “Seemed to start good…”
Those things (former) in-laws say…
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. -Ephesians 6:4, NLT Show of–virtual–hands, how many had in-laws who lectured you about your deficiencies as a spouse? If you are looking for the source of blinding … Continue reading “Those things (former) in-laws say…”
“Was there anything true in his criticism?”
“Sure, some of what he stated was false. But was there anything true in his criticism of you?” -Cheater Supporter He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” -Genesis 3:1b, NIV Danger! Danger! Danger! When a cheater apologist encourages you to dig in the … Continue reading ““Was there anything true in his criticism?””
Reminder to forgive really for whom?
Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. -Romans 12:15, NKJV What astounds me about some Christians is how they believe they are helping faithful spouses by telling them that they must forgive their cheater. Most of us–faithful spouses–already understand forgiving our cheater is on the docket of things to do in … Continue reading “Reminder to forgive really for whom?”
Understanding forgiveness from Matthew 6:14-15
One good thing that came out of my ex-wife’s adultery and my consequential divorce from her is that I know God’s Word much better than before particularly in regards to forgiveness and repentance. A lot of what I got from the Christian community was Matt 6:14-15: 14 For if you forgive other people when they … Continue reading “Understanding forgiveness from Matthew 6:14-15”
An especially dangerous lie
“The affair has nothing to do with our marriage problems.” -Lying Cheater This is a very dangerous lie. Sometimes the cheater says this, and sometimes, sadly, pastors or other counselors say this. It is dangerous because it takes the focus off the most destructive behavior–namely, the adultery. Clearly, we know this is a lie because … Continue reading “An especially dangerous lie”