If I could write my own ticket, I would teach a seminary class on helping adultery victims and holding cheaters accountable. -Included in this class would be a primer on how divorce is not always sin as well as how divorce can be a mercy to victims of infidelity. Anger and ire ought to be … Continue reading “Need Seminary Classes Dealing With Divorce and Infidelity Situations”
Category: Sin
Get Your Own Divorce Lawyer!
If you are expecting someone who majored in deception to play fair during a divorce, then you are dangerously naive. Please, get your own divorce lawyer! Cheaters are notorious for trying to set the narrative and play by their own rules, which seem to change with their moods. A divorce lawyer will force cheaters to … Continue reading “Get Your Own Divorce Lawyer!”
Wise Not To “Be Friends” With Some Cheaters
Some cheaters will never give up their narrative of “what went wrong.” Naive Christians think such madness is finite. They think the cheater will “have to” face the difficult reality some day. Surely, she will eventually come to her senses and face the reality that she blew up her marriage by committing adultery. Don’t count … Continue reading “Wise Not To “Be Friends” With Some Cheaters”
Pastors, Please Stop Making Divorce “Jokes.”
Pastors, Please stop making divorce “jokes.” When faithful spouses hear pastors talking about how grateful they are that their wives haven’t left them, this is insensitive to those in the pews who have been abandoned by cheaters–especially. Such “joking” is teaching: -You are teaching your people divorce happens over everyday irritations in marriage. Do you … Continue reading “Pastors, Please Stop Making Divorce “Jokes.””
Sixty-Eight Percent, Pastors!
“68% of divorce cases involve one party meeting a new paramour over the internet….” –“Internet pornography by the numbers; a significant threat to society” by Webroot Divorce and infidelity are strongly linked. Treating infidelity as a minor issue while focusing on divorce as the major issue ignores this sociological fact. It also ignores the Bible’s … Continue reading “Sixty-Eight Percent, Pastors!”
Feeling Bad Is NOT Enough!
Then Saul admitted to Samuel, “Yes, I have sinned. I have disobeyed your instructions and the Lord’s command, for I was afraid of the people and did what they demanded.” -I Samuel 15:24, NLT Feeling Bad Is Not Enough Even though Saul called his disobedience sin, God did not accept this late and lame confession–(notice the … Continue reading “Feeling Bad Is NOT Enough!”
Cheating IS abuse!
Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! – I Corinthians 6:15b, NLT When someone is a cheater, they are also an abuser. You cannot have one without the other. Soul rape is abusive. I am astounded by how cheating and adultery are too often treated … Continue reading “Cheating IS abuse!”
“Exit Affairs” and Embezzlement–No “Exit Embezzlement” Euphemisms Used
For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil. -Proverbs 5:3, NLT Personally, I despise people using the term “exit affair” to describe an affair allegedly utilized to end a marriage. It minimizes the pain of the faithful spouse who not only was soul raped … Continue reading ““Exit Affairs” and Embezzlement–No “Exit Embezzlement” Euphemisms Used”
Deeply Hurt Just Means Loved Deeply
Day and night I have only tears for food, while my enemies continually taunt me, saying, “Where is this God of yours?” – Psalm 42:3, NLT Recently, I shared the story of how my first marriage came to its end via my first wife’s adultery. I was surprised by the emotion–namely, sadness–I felt telling this … Continue reading “Deeply Hurt Just Means Loved Deeply”
God Is Not Okay With Cheaters Refusing To Repent
Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV These two verse uttered by Jesus are why I doubt … Continue reading “God Is Not Okay With Cheaters Refusing To Repent”