“For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel…. -Malachi 2:16a, NASB “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew 19:9, NASB Jesus did not quote the infamous passage from Malachi on divorce: “I [God] hate divorce.” This is an important observation … Continue reading “Jesus did NOT quote Malachi 2:16 on divorce…”
Category: Sin
Divorce Is NOT Your End!
The LORD blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12, NIV Divorce is scary. It is made unnecessarily so–in part–by a Christian culture bent on blaming faithful spouses. Singleness is hardly an ideal state in the Christian community, and divorced singles have the added burden of dealing with the … Continue reading “Divorce Is NOT Your End!”
Faithful Spouses, On YOUR Flaws…
For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard. -Romans 3:23, NLT Not everyone is worthy of hearing your story, faithful spouse! A Christian who looks down upon a faithful spouse with pity thinking the faithful spouse somehow caused his or her divorce is precisely the sort of person unworthy of hearing the faithful … Continue reading “Faithful Spouses, On YOUR Flaws…”
On being a “Hur”
But Moses’ hands were heavy; and they took a stone, and put it under him, and he sat thereon; and Aaron and Hur stayed up his hands, the one on the one side, and the other on the other side; and his hands were steady until the going down of the sun. -Exodus 17:12, KJV … Continue reading “On being a “Hur””
Cheaters will generally return to their “vomit.”
As a dog returns to its vomit, so fools repeat their folly. -Proverbs 26:11, NIV Committing adultery is foolish, foolish behavior. The Bible names it as such in Proverbs 5. And the general observation from chapter twenty-six is that fools repeat such folly. Maybe this does not happen always, but it does usually as this … Continue reading “Cheaters will generally return to their “vomit.””
Ungodly Counsel as Catnip to Cheaters
“Can’t you see?! You’ve divorced her in your heart.” -“Christian” Lay Counselor Such a statement is highly irresponsible. It is like waving catnip in front of a cheater. They are likely to take this statement and go forth to act as if they are truly not married (even though they are). A “Christian” leader trying to … Continue reading “Ungodly Counsel as Catnip to Cheaters”
Cheaters Are NOT Martyrs But Rather Aggressors!
And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” –I Corinthians 6:16, NLT Cheaters seem to enjoy playing the “martyr card.” They claim their spouse did not give them enough sex or emotional attention. “We … Continue reading “Cheaters Are NOT Martyrs But Rather Aggressors!”
Worthy of Basic Respect and Love!
See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God; and such we are. -I John 3:1a, NASB With pastors and other Christian leaders, it can sometimes feel like the faithful spouse is on trial regarding the infidelity or divorce. Behind the questions regarding how my … Continue reading “Worthy of Basic Respect and Love!”
Even God’s forgiveness of us is NOT one-sided.
Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. -Colossians 3:13, NIV “If you forgive anyone’s sins, they are forgiven. If you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.” -John 20:23, NLT If we confess our sins, he is … Continue reading “Even God’s forgiveness of us is NOT one-sided.”
A Most Reasonable Expectation
“…let her therefore put away her whoredoms out of her sight, and her adulteries from between her breasts….” -Hosea 2:2b, KJV Reasonable Expectation: A faithful spouse should expect a cheating spouse–whether emotional and/or physical–will demonstrate that the affair is completely over and steps have been taken to fix the character flaw in the cheater that … Continue reading “A Most Reasonable Expectation”