Category: Sin

Cheater-Speak: “I never intended to hurt you.”

Lord, are you not from everlasting?     … Your eyes are too pure to look on evil;     you cannot tolerate wrongdoing. Why then do you tolerate the treacherous?     Why are you silent while the wicked     swallow up those more righteous than themselves? -Habakkuk 1:12a, 13, NIV “I never intended to hurt you.” -Cheater The … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I never intended to hurt you.””

“MY money! MY Privacy!!”

“No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other; you will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” -Luke 16:13, NLT Cheaters are quick to play the “offended card” when caught cheating. They suddenly are emphatic about what is due to … Continue reading ““MY money! MY Privacy!!””

Lectured on Real Repentance Irony

“‘These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.’” -Matthew15:8, NIV My tolerance for religious hypocrisy was low before going through my divorce. That tolerance was lowered even further through my experience with more than my fair share of religious hypocrites in my marriage’s dissolution and aftermath. These were people … Continue reading “Lectured on Real Repentance Irony”

Cold & Evil

There are six things the Lord hates,     seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue,         hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes,         feet that are quick to rush into evil… -Proverbs 6:16-18, NIV People do not “get it” unless they have experienced it up close and personal. They do not … Continue reading “Cold & Evil”

Make Ambiguity the Cheater’s Enemy

“Let her remove the adulterous look from her face     and the unfaithfulness from between her breasts.” -Hosea 2:2b, NIV Ambiguity is a main reason faithful spouses remain longer than we should in doomed marriages. Cheaters thrive on ambiguity. This is the key idea behind why a cheater will confess to an emotional affair while continuing … Continue reading “Make Ambiguity the Cheater’s Enemy”

My Mistake: A Very Reasonable Expectation

…the LORD is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. -Malachi 2:14b, NIV I made many mistakes in my first marriage. Certainly, I made mistakes in its dissolution process as well. Hence, this blog exists. … Continue reading “My Mistake: A Very Reasonable Expectation”

Cheater-Speak: “I didn’t tell you, because I thought you’d get angry.”

“I didn’t tell you, because I thought you’d get angry.” -Cheater Let’s start to unpack this “gem” of a cheater-speak: 1. The cheater is aware that what he or she did might be upsetting to the faithful spouse, yet still did it. This is another reason why I am in the camp that cheaters have full knowledge … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I didn’t tell you, because I thought you’d get angry.””

No more of THOSE arguments, thankfully!

Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.* -Proverbs 25:24, NIV One of the many gifts that came with my first marriage ending was the end of those arguments. I no longer had to argue over my reality with someone trying to deny it. Once I let go of … Continue reading “No more of THOSE arguments, thankfully!”