“Why do the wicked prosper, growing old and powerful?” -Job 21:7, NLT Cheaters sometimes–or even often–seem so happy and carefree. This includes even when their cheating ways have been uncovered by the victims–i.e. the faithful spouses. On the other hand, faithful spouses often look depressed, anxious, and angry following infidelity discovery. They’re “twitchy.” In this post, I … Continue reading “Why We Are So “Twitchy””
Category: Sin
The Gospel Coalition (TGC) Controversies As Voiced By Nate Sparks
My introduction to The Gospel Coalition (TGC) took place mostly while I was in seminary at Yale. I was definitely influenced by the leading members of this group including Piper and Keller, in particular. However, as I have matured as a Christian and walked through the difficult valleys of adultery discovery and divorce, I am … Continue reading “The Gospel Coalition (TGC) Controversies As Voiced By Nate Sparks”
Is Telling Unforgiving?
A third time he asked him, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” Peter was hurt that Jesus asked the question a third time. He said, “Lord, you know everything. You know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Then feed my sheep.” -John 21:17, NIV Is it unforgiving to tell people that your marriage … Continue reading “Is Telling Unforgiving?”
Rooted And Unmoving
That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man; That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love, May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, … Continue reading “Rooted And Unmoving”
That Which Shall Never Be Mentioned Again–AKA The Affair
“This is what the Lord says: Because of what you have done, I will cause your own household to rebel against you. I will give your wives to another man before your very eyes, and he will go to bed with them in public view.” … Then David confessed to Nathan, “I have sinned against … Continue reading “That Which Shall Never Be Mentioned Again–AKA The Affair”
When we are talking months, years, or even decades of cheating…
Dear friends, if we deliberately continue sinning after we have received knowledge of the truth, there is no longer any sacrifice that will cover these sins. -Hebrews 10:26, NLT The longer someone has led a double-life of cheating, the less likely they will be able to repent and change. What sacrifice remains to cover that … Continue reading “When we are talking months, years, or even decades of cheating…”
Rules Do Not Work
A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh. -Ezekiel 36:26, KJV I can remember when we sat down to hash out THE LIST. This list … Continue reading “Rules Do Not Work”
Like A Boss
“No weapon formed against you shall prosper, And every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, And their righteousness is from Me,” Says the Lord. -Isaiah 54:17, NKJV Too often we, faithful spouses, do not give ourselves enough credit for what we … Continue reading “Like A Boss”
Refuse To Get Sucked Into Their Warped Reality
There is more hope for fools than for people who think they are wise. –Proverbs 26:12, NLT They traded the truth about God for a lie…. –Romans 1:25a, NLT Cheaters can come across as so confident in their lies. This confidence has the power to make even the most stalwart faithful spouse second-guess their instincts, hard evidence, … Continue reading “Refuse To Get Sucked Into Their Warped Reality”
Naghmeh Abedini And Sorting My Painful History
The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth. -Proverbs 12:22, NLT When my first marriage was falling apart, my (now) ex-wife would make statements and tell people–including my own family–that I was threat to her. I even have an email from her father where he states I am such … Continue reading “Naghmeh Abedini And Sorting My Painful History”