Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV The affair is never about the other spouse. I know this is a controversial thing to write. But it is true from a pastor’s perspective. We know this truth from … Continue reading “Never about other spouse”
Category: Sin
Too much hating of divorce…
Too much hating of divorce is taught in church and not enough hating of adultery! I used to be of the camp that would say I hate divorce, too. These days I find that saying unhelpful. It perpetuates a poor translation of Malachi 2:16, which actually does not have God hating divorce. All of this … Continue reading “Too much hating of divorce…”
God hates sin, not divorce!
I have seen your adulteries, And your lustful neighings, The lewdness of your harlotry, Your abominations on the hills in the fields. Woe to you, O Jerusalem! Will you still not be made clean?” -Jeremiah 13:27, NKJV God Hates Adultery More Than He Hates Divorce. This is my response to Christian counselors and pastors who … Continue reading “God hates sin, not divorce!”
Scrambling Cheater: How’d you find out?
“How’d you find out?” asks incredulous, busted Cheater. When a Cheater gets busted and their first impulse is to learn how you discovered them, you know that cheater is the opposite of repentant. Notice this question isn’t a denial of the behavior. Asking it is a confirmation of sorts. The arrogant Cheater is flabbergasted that … Continue reading “Scrambling Cheater: How’d you find out?”
Turning it on you!
But Samuel replied, “What is more pleasing to the Lord: your burnt offerings and sacrifices or your obedience to his voice? Listen! Obedience is better than sacrifice, and submission is better than offering the fat of rams.” -I Samuel 15:22, NLT Notice how swiftly Cheaters can turn responsibility for their cheating onto you, their victim! … Continue reading “Turning it on you!”
Cheaters leveraging money power
Teach those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which is so unreliable. Their trust should be in God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment. -I Timothy 6:17, NLT Cheaters are often cruel. Money is just one leverage point Cheaters use … Continue reading “Cheaters leveraging money power”
Vows on “for better or worse”
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT “…for better, for worse…” These are familiar parts of the wedding vows in a Christian wedding ceremony. But do we really believe … Continue reading “Vows on “for better or worse””
Waste of time
“But now bring charges against Israel—your mother— for she is no longer my wife, and I am no longer her husband. Tell her to remove the prostitute’s makeup from her face and the clothing that exposes her breasts.” -Hosea 2:2, NLT Staying with a cheater is often a waste of time. Cheaters often do not … Continue reading “Waste of time”
Curses missing
Like a flitting sparrow, like a flying swallow, So a curse without cause shall not alight. -Proverbs 26:2, KJV May all who gloat over my distress be put to shame and confusion; may all who exalt themselves over me be clothed with shame and disgrace. -Psalm 35:26, NIV My former father-in-law acted in very entitled ways at … Continue reading “Curses missing”
Sad, Deluded Cheaters
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Cheaters are often self-deluded. They think that if they have justified their infidelity to themselves then it is justified. Nothing could be further from the truth. Nothing justifies committing adultery! God does not hand out exceptions to the Ten Commandments. That is not how this most basic … Continue reading “Sad, Deluded Cheaters”