For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. -2 Timothy 4:3, NIV Before discovery or even after discovery of an affair, you might experience … Continue reading “Will not repent even in the face of counter evidence”
Category: Sin
Indifference to injustice is ungodly!
For the Lord is righteous, he loves justice…. -Psalm 11:7a, NIV Caring for faithful spouses is a justice issue, in my opinion. I know many issues in this world are related to the imbalance of justice. Adultery and adultery victims are not the only ones suffering from a world run through with injustice. Yet they are suffering injustices. If … Continue reading “Indifference to injustice is ungodly!”
Perfection not required!
10 “‘If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife—with the wife of his neighbor—both the adulterer and the adulteress are to be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NIV After discovering adultery, the faithful spouse’s performance as a spouse is often put under the microscope. We, faithful spouse, might do it ourselves trying to make sense … Continue reading “Perfection not required!”
Bad Advice: “Love her back!”
“Rebuke your mother, rebuke her, for she is not my wife, and I am not her husband. Let her remove the adulterous look from her face and the unfaithfulness from between her breasts.” -Hosea 2:2, NIV Love her back! So often, this advice is what is given as the “Christian” answer to marital infidelity. It is an … Continue reading “Bad Advice: “Love her back!””
Yes, phone sex IS cheating!
Yes, phone sex IS cheating! This ought to be obvious from the actual subject. While “Phone sex” does not involve direct physical contact, it certainly crosses the line emotionally as far as “forsaking all others” is concerned. But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of … Continue reading “Yes, phone sex IS cheating!”
More concerned about how you found out
Pro-Tip: When the Cheater is more concerned about how you found out than the damaged they did to you, then you know they are not remorseful. This is the behavior of someone who is looking for the source of the leaked information. People ask such questions to continue their behavior. They are looking to plug … Continue reading “More concerned about how you found out”
Signs: Emotional Affairs
To those who have no sense she says, “Stolen water is sweet; food eaten in secret is delicious!” But little do they know that the dead are there, that her guests are deep in the realm of the dead. -Proverbs 9:16b-18, NIV Signs: Emotional Affairs I do not think affairs happen as the result of one … Continue reading “Signs: Emotional Affairs”
Lying habit problem
19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved. -John 3:19-20, KJV I have a theory about why some cheaters refuse to … Continue reading “Lying habit problem”
Relief of knowing!
Relief. The months of stone-cold or downright cruel responses. Warmth disappearing overnight like a Minnesotan May blizzard. It all started to make sense. I wasn’t imagining things. The Other Man. He existed. Had existed for months! This is one of the strangest and most surreal parts of discovering infidelity. The moment of confirmation is not only … Continue reading “Relief of knowing!”
“What do you know?”
“Well, what do you know?” says Cheater. This is a clear sign that your Cheater is in full-blown damage control. They want to know what is known so that they don’t “over” confess. Plus, they want to know where the leaks are so that they can plug them. I do not recommend showing all your … Continue reading ““What do you know?””