“We just drifted apart,” says Cheater. This is probably one of the lamer excuses a Cheater might give for their behavior. Like ships on the ocean of life, this metaphor suggests the tides of time simply separated the couple. In other words, the excuse serves to blame external circumstances. Is it possible to “drift apart” … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “We drifted apart.””
Category: Sin
“For the kids” Really?!
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Adulterous spouses have no shame. On one hand, they will willfully and maliciously disregard how their selfish sinful choices impact their children. Then, on the other hand, they will … Continue reading ““For the kids” Really?!”
Their “Flying Monkeys”
When people discuss narcissists, they sometimes use the phrase ‘flying monkeys.’ Flying monkeys refer to people who carry out the work of a narcissist or an abusive person, and it comes from The Wizard of Oz, in which the Wicked Witch of the West puts flying monkeys under her spell. -Taken from “What the Term … Continue reading “Their “Flying Monkeys””
That old bitter card
Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. – Hebrews 12:14-15, NIV I am suspicious of … Continue reading “That old bitter card”
Still blaming
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. -I John 1:9, NIV Instead of confessing, many of our Cheaters will continue to blame us for our marriages’ demise until they die. They do not see their infidelity as relevant to the divorce. … Continue reading “Still blaming”
Marriage was chosen freely.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Cheaters freely chose to marry their spouses. This free choice came with the explicit commitment to exclusiveness. That is the usual marriage vow of “forsaking all others.” Now, if … Continue reading “Marriage was chosen freely.”
No “Accidental Muffins”
“There are no ‘accidental muffins.’” I made this statement the other night about affairs. It was in reference to a video on the internet about cheating. The original poster pointed out all the steps needed to cheat and likened it to baking something. A cheater might try to pass their affair off as an accident. … Continue reading “No “Accidental Muffins””
Cheater Backhanded “Admissions”
Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others. -Proverbs 12:15, NLT Sometimes the only thing a cheater might admit to doing wrong is a backhanded admission. What do I mean by “backhanded admission?” “I apologize for not speaking up sooner to tell you how you aren’t meeting my ‘needs.’” “My … Continue reading “Cheater Backhanded “Admissions””
Fruit of a wicked heart
14 Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. 15 These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death. -James 1:14-15, NLT Fruit of a Wicket Heart Long before the affair happens, it begins in the heart of the Cheater. This is what … Continue reading “Fruit of a wicked heart”
Never divorce stance as idolatry
She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery. But that treacherous sister Judah had no fear, and now she, too, has left me and given herself to prostitution. -Jeremiah 3:8, NLT Is the “Never Divorce” stance on marriage really just plain, old idolatry? Now, before I answer this, I want to be … Continue reading “Never divorce stance as idolatry”