Category: Theology of divorce

Second marriage is better than first!

The Lord blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12a, NIV Christians are terrible as far as how they attempt to manipulate faithful spouses into staying married to unrepentant cheaters. I can think of several spiritually abusive moves that faithful spouses endure in various Christian communities who take a dim or … Continue reading “Second marriage is better than first!”

Some just love the darkness.

And the judgment is based on this fact: God’s light came into the world, but people loved the darkness more than the light, for their actions were evil. -John 3:19, NLT Some people will choose the darkness over the light. This was true in Jesus’ day, and it is certainly true today. A wise person … Continue reading “Some just love the darkness.”

“For the marriage” pastoral stance issues

And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also. -Jeremiah 3:8, KJV Issues With “For the Marriage” Pastoral Stance Sometimes, pastors, you cannot both be … Continue reading ““For the marriage” pastoral stance issues”

Abandonment: When one spouse is “done”

But the people replied, “Don’t waste your breath. We will continue to live as we want to, stubbornly following our own evil desires.” -Jeremiah 18:12, NLT Letting go of a spouse is hard. This is true, in my experience, even if that spouse is a cheater. We married them, and it is a bitter pill … Continue reading “Abandonment: When one spouse is “done””

How a church or denomination responds to faithful pastors getting divorced says a lot.

How evangelicals respond to tragedy in a pastor’s life says a lot about their character and real theology. It also speaks to their maturity and wisdom as a church or religious body. Sadly, I experienced and have heard many epic fails in this area. It is one thing to say that you love your pastor, and quite … Continue reading “How a church or denomination responds to faithful pastors getting divorced says a lot.”

Biblical permission to divorce includes permission to remarry!

 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when … Continue reading “Biblical permission to divorce includes permission to remarry!”

Pastor to DM: What DO I say to an adultery victim?

“And if anyone gives even a cup of cold water to one of these little ones who is my disciple, truly I tell you, that person will certainly not lose their reward.” -Matthew 10:42, NIV What DO I say to an adultery victim as a pastor? Yesterday’s post raised this question. Dr. Skinner suggested a … Continue reading “Pastor to DM: What DO I say to an adultery victim?”

Vowing “…for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer….”

For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT “…for better, for worse…” These are familiar parts of the wedding vows in a Christian wedding ceremony. But do we really believe … Continue reading “Vowing “…for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer….””

Evil toying cheaters

Some cheaters are acutely aware of the power they have over the faithful spouse. They understand that divorcing their spouse will mean the professional destruction of the faithful spouse. Plus, they may know that the faithful spouse is highly committed to working through even infidelity. With this knowledge, they toy with the faithful spouse taking … Continue reading “Evil toying cheaters”