Hi DM, This one is a doozy so bear with me. Long story short, I was married for 10 years to a guy I had known for 20 (grew up together). Thought we were happy in the marriage, before uncovering his infidelities (Ashley Madison accounts, hours of pornography each day, hidden Snapchat account where he … Continue reading “Dear DM: Do I participate in the Cheater’s Catholic annulment process?”
Category: Theology of divorce
Keep telling your story, please!
Telling the story of what happened is important if we want to change how people treat faithful spouses. The larger narrative starts to change when people learn that their friend, colleague, or even family member was mistreated by a cheater. It changes because they are emotionally invested in you and your hurts matter to them. … Continue reading “Keep telling your story, please!”
If cheater never had any good qualities, divorce would not hurt as much.
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. -Genesis 1:27, KJV Divorcing a cheater would not hurt as much if she was pure evil. That is my opinion. I am not saying what she did was anything less than evil. That is pure … Continue reading “If cheater never had any good qualities, divorce would not hurt as much.”
Even Jesus accepted the fact of rejection
“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the city that kills the prophets and stones God’s messengers! How often I have wanted to gather your children together as a hen protects her chicks beneath her wings, but you wouldn’t let me.” -Matthew 23:37, NLT Jesus wanted to see the Jewish people turn to him. We see this in this … Continue reading “Even Jesus accepted the fact of rejection”
Might have wasted more years!
In his mercy, God knew I probably would have held onto my first marriage well beyond what was good for me. So, my ex filed on me, and I decided fighting the divorce was not worth it. I was not going to fight against a divorce that a cheater was seeking. That was her choice–yet … Continue reading “Might have wasted more years!”
Unwanted (at the time) path
“…when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go.” -John 21:18b, NIV Unfortunately, I was the first. Somehow, my huge family had never experienced a divorce on either side of the immediate family. But I became the first … Continue reading “Unwanted (at the time) path”
Let the cheater go!
But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. -I Corinthians 7:15, KJV Let the cheater leave! If a cheater is hell-bent on denying Christ by their actions, let them. This is on them. I see this … Continue reading “Let the cheater go!”
More details exposed in Lysa TerKeurst divorce
The [divorce] pleadings contain a series of text messages between Art [TerKeurst] and “Mistress X,” whom he allegedly met on the website SugarDaddy.com. He allegedly spent at least $118,000 of the TerKeursts’ money on the relationship, including paying for the mistress to move from Atlanta to Charlotte (near where Art resided), and buying her a … Continue reading “More details exposed in Lysa TerKeurst divorce”
O, the cost! Divorce scare tactics.
For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. -I Timothy 6:10, KJV A popular Christian curriculum for people going through divorce would regularly try to dissuade people from divorcing by pointing out the financial … Continue reading “O, the cost! Divorce scare tactics.”
False hope feeding
Sharing only testimonies of reconciled and restored marriages following adultery… …feeds false hope in “reconciliation” for faithful spouses dealing with unrepentant cheaters. Show of hands. How many here thought their marriage was going to “make it” and then you would have a testimony about marriage reconciliation to share with others? I know I did. The … Continue reading “False hope feeding”