Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Adulterous spouses have no shame. On one hand, they will willfully and maliciously disregard how their selfish sinful choices impact their children. Then, on the other hand, they will … Continue reading “Do it “FOR THE KIDS!””
Category: Theology of divorce
Cheaters, Churches, and Christianity
I can hardly believe the report about the sexual immorality going on among you—something that even pagans don’t do. I am told that a man in your church is living in sin with his stepmother. You are so proud of yourselves, but you should be mourning in sorrow and shame. And you should remove this man … Continue reading “Cheaters, Churches, and Christianity”
God forgave, BUT King David’s son still died!
Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “The Lord has taken away your sin. You are not going to die. But because by doing this you have shown utter contempt for the Lord, the son born to you will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NIV Forgiveness does NOT wipe out all consequences for the … Continue reading “God forgave, BUT King David’s son still died!”
Oh, Cheater tears!
“I could tell my father about how, a month after we separated, my ex called me up and told me through tears that he’d slept with someone else, and it wasn’t good, and could we still divorce but be friends with benefits?” -Hännah Ettinger in “Ending an abusive marriage is hard. Ending one in the … Continue reading “Oh, Cheater tears!”
Mailbag: God took back unfaithful Israel; Are we obligated as well?
A wrote, I am in the middle of divorce proceedings and I have not seen signs of repentence, and even so, know that I would not be required to stay. I do have a question from my own heart. I was reading in Psalm 106:32-48 this morning and was struck at the unfaithfulness of Israel … Continue reading “Mailbag: God took back unfaithful Israel; Are we obligated as well?”
An Article Illustrating “Never Divorce” Damage
A recent opinion piece was published in the Washington Post that caught my attention. It takes aim at the evangelical culture where divorce is NEVER acceptable. The article is by Hännah Ettinger (click on title to be directed to the article):* “Ending an abusive marriage is hard. Ending one in the evangelical church is harder.” As … Continue reading “An Article Illustrating “Never Divorce” Damage”
Is the “Never Divorce” stance idolatry?
She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery. But that treacherous sister Judah had no fear, and now she, too, has left me and given herself to prostitution. -Jeremiah 3:8, NLT Is the “Never Divorce” stance on marriage idolatry? Now, before I answer this, I want to be clear I was sympathetic to … Continue reading “Is the “Never Divorce” stance idolatry?”
John Piper and Divorce
And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce… -Jeremiah 3:8a, KJV Shout out to “Janey The Small” on Twitter who found this audio file (posted in 2013) of Pastor John Piper on what he would advice Christians … Continue reading “John Piper and Divorce”
Why? Ask the cheater.
“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?” -Jeremiah 17:9, NLT Feeling obligated to have an explanation for an abandonment or divorce plays a significant role in the suffering in my experience. It is crazy-making. You do not have access to the thoughts … Continue reading “Why? Ask the cheater.”
Divorce Minister Blog Vision
…fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. – Hebrews 12:2, NIV Why create the blog “Divorce Minister?” Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is a ministry born … Continue reading “Divorce Minister Blog Vision”