If I could write my own ticket, I would teach a seminary class on helping adultery victims and holding cheaters accountable. -Included in this class would be a primer on how divorce is not always sin as well as how divorce can be a mercy to victims of infidelity. Anger and ire ought to be … Continue reading “Need Seminary Classes Dealing With Divorce and Infidelity Situations”
Category: Theology of divorce
Pastors, Please Stop Making Divorce “Jokes.”
Pastors, Please stop making divorce “jokes.” When faithful spouses hear pastors talking about how grateful they are that their wives haven’t left them, this is insensitive to those in the pews who have been abandoned by cheaters–especially. Such “joking” is teaching: -You are teaching your people divorce happens over everyday irritations in marriage. Do you … Continue reading “Pastors, Please Stop Making Divorce “Jokes.””
Sixty-Eight Percent, Pastors!
“68% of divorce cases involve one party meeting a new paramour over the internet….” –“Internet pornography by the numbers; a significant threat to society” by Webroot Divorce and infidelity are strongly linked. Treating infidelity as a minor issue while focusing on divorce as the major issue ignores this sociological fact. It also ignores the Bible’s … Continue reading “Sixty-Eight Percent, Pastors!”
Feeling Bad Is NOT Enough!
Then Saul admitted to Samuel, “Yes, I have sinned. I have disobeyed your instructions and the Lord’s command, for I was afraid of the people and did what they demanded.” -I Samuel 15:24, NLT Feeling Bad Is Not Enough Even though Saul called his disobedience sin, God did not accept this late and lame confession–(notice the … Continue reading “Feeling Bad Is NOT Enough!”
Still Work – Either Way
Divorcing a cheater is not the end of the healing process. It is NOT an “easy out.” Anyone who has gone through the experience could tell you as much. The divorce is often just the beginning. True, it might be easier to heal from abuse–I consider adultery and all the lies with it abuse–from a cheater divorced … Continue reading “Still Work – Either Way”
“Married Too Young” Excuse
“We just married too young. That’s why it didn’t work out.” -Cheater I just do not buy the “married too young” explanation for divorce. It is an excuse. This is a tidy lie to cover up for the cheater’s character deficits and to help people avoid feeling uncomfortable in facing the hard truth: The cheater … Continue reading ““Married Too Young” Excuse”
Yep, I am intolerant.
Yes, that is correct. My name is David, and I am intolerant. And I am not ashamed of this truth in the least. This intolerance presents no problems internally for me. In fact, I hope more people–and more pastors, especially–become as intolerant as I am. If only our churches were so intolerant! My hope is … Continue reading “Yep, I am intolerant.”
Dear DM, Do I just keep sucking it up?
Dear Divorce Minister, As hard as it is, I have been reading your posts as an offender against my husband. I have taken full responsibility for my actions, I believe I repented and worked for years to make amends. He says he has forgiven me, yet why do I feel as if I’m being constantly … Continue reading “Dear DM, Do I just keep sucking it up?”
Dear Divorce Minister, What should I look for?
Dear Divorce Minister, My husband choose to continue his affair, which has resulted in me filling for divorce. He did not show any true remorse just used the word sorry. His actions in continuing to see his AP told me otherwise. When the divorce is final he is then not committing a sin anymore. What … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister, What should I look for?”
Reconciled to Friendship, NOT Marriage
And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. – 2 Corinthians 5:19b, NIV Reconciled to Friendship, NOT Marriage! What often bothers me about Christians talking about marriages ravaged by adultery is how “reconciliation” is thrown about as the same thing as marriage restoration. It is not. A former couple could experience true reconciliation … Continue reading “Reconciled to Friendship, NOT Marriage”