The fathers shall not be put to death for the children, neither shall the children be put to death for the fathers: every man shall be put to death for his own sin. – Deuteronomy 24:16, KJV “What did you contribute to the breakdown of your marriage?” -Inquiring Christian I do not like this sort … Continue reading “Questioning faithful spouses over “their part””
Category: Theology of divorce
Avoid Shipwrecking!
Timothy, my son, I am giving you this command in keeping with the prophecies once made about you, so that by recalling them you may fight the battle well, holding on to faith and a good conscience, which some have rejected and so have suffered shipwreck with regard to the faith. – 1 Timothy 1:18-19, … Continue reading “Avoid Shipwrecking!”
Dear DM, How does a cheater like myself truly come to repentance and empathy?
Hi. I am the cheater in my relationship. I have been addicted to porn for 20 years as well as have visited massage parlors and strip clubs for 10 years. My sin is indeed grevious [sic]. My wife is leaving and divorcing me. I agree with everything you say in your posts. I deserve nothing. … Continue reading “Dear DM, How does a cheater like myself truly come to repentance and empathy?”
When the other spouse is just “done”
But the people replied, “Don’t waste your breath. We will continue to live as we want to, stubbornly following our own evil desires.” -Jeremiah 18:12, NLT Letting go of a spouse is hard. This is true, in my experience, even if that spouse is a cheater. We married them, and it is a bitter pill … Continue reading “When the other spouse is just “done””
Weight and Money
When a husband is unemployed, his lack of funds is an easy target for cheaters to use as a “reason” to cheat and leave. When a wife is overweight, her weight is an easy target for cheaters to use as a “reason” to cheat and leave. On Weight and Money Rejections What bothers me greatly … Continue reading “Weight and Money”
How a church responds to their pastor’s divorce…
How evangelicals respond to tragedy in a pastor’s life says a lot about their character and real theology. It also speaks to their maturity and wisdom as a church or religious body. Sadly, I experienced and have heard many epic fails in this area. It is one thing to say that you love your pastor, and quite … Continue reading “How a church responds to their pastor’s divorce…”
Pro Tip: Not everyone is reasonable!
“Now think it over and see what you can do, because disaster is hanging over our master and his whole household. He is such a wicked man that no one can talk to him.” -Servant to Abigail, I Samuel 25:17, NIV This verse comes from the story of David, Abigail, and Nabal recorded in I … Continue reading “Pro Tip: Not everyone is reasonable!”
Pastors need to say it aloud!
“From the least to the greatest, all are greedy for gain; prophets and priests alike, all practice deceit. They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. Are they ashamed of their detestable conduct? No, they have no shame at all; they … Continue reading “Pastors need to say it aloud!”
Dear DM, I wish I had found your website sooner.
Dear Divorce Minister, I’m not articulate so I’ll try to explain that I wish I had found your website sooner. My husband has been a serial cheater for 25 years, I just didn’t know it. How stupid can a woman be? For many reasons, I wish I had found your website sooner. You see, I’ve … Continue reading “Dear DM, I wish I had found your website sooner.”
Giants? What is God then?
“The land we traveled through and explored will devour anyone who goes to live there. All the people we saw were huge. We even saw giants there, the descendants of Anak.” -Number 13:32b-33a, NLT Choose to trust God or give into giant-fear? When going through divorce, many issues look insurmountable. We can see the loses. … Continue reading “Giants? What is God then?”