Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. -Galatians 6:7, NIV Setting a boundary is NOT about setting a punishment for the other person. The boundary is there to healthfully preserve you from whatever threatens your well-being. It is not a punishment. Rather, the boundary is a step towards … Continue reading “Boundary setting NOT punishment dealing”
Category: Theology of divorce
When a cheater-ex gets remarried…
“And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.” -Mark 10:12, NLT Unless a biblical exception is met (like your now ex-spouse cheated on you), this holds true in a spiritual sense. The remarriage is adultery in God’s eyes. It ought not to surprise us, though, this does not deter … Continue reading “When a cheater-ex gets remarried…”
Repentant cheaters make peace with deserved losses
I will set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired servants.’ -Luke 15:18-19, NIV Until a cheater has made peace with the idea that their sins … Continue reading “Repentant cheaters make peace with deserved losses”
Don’t Bother.
Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be just like him. -Proverbs 26:4, NIV Has your cheater stopped cheating? Has she/he confessed the extent of the infidelity in their past? Are the affair secrets out in the open? I do not see much hope for marriages ravaged by infidelity … Continue reading “Don’t Bother.”
Pastor Associated By Faithful Spouses
Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction. -2 Timothy 4:2, NIV To be helped, we need to be open to receiving. Maybe the Christian community turned on you when you decided to divorce your cheater or your cheater decided to divorce you? Maybe your cheater … Continue reading “Pastor Associated By Faithful Spouses”
I do NOT want YOU to work it out!
***My eBook is releasing tomorrow: Monday, November 12th!!! Get your copy now while it is still on the low price of only $4.99.*** I don’t want you to work it out… …if your adulterous spouse is unrepentant. I simply do not. I wish more pastors would take this stance and verbalize it to their congregants. … Continue reading “I do NOT want YOU to work it out!”
Both/And NOT Either/Or, Pastors!
***My eBook is releasing in less than a week!!! Monday, November 12th. Get your copy now while it is still on the low price of only $4.99.*** THE “EITHER/OR”: EITHER you support marriages OR you support those going through divorce. When Mrs. DM and I were at our former church, I proposed to offer my services … Continue reading “Both/And NOT Either/Or, Pastors!”
Fickle equals fully fake repentance
***My eBook is releasing in less than a week!!! Monday, November 12th. Get your copy now while it is still on the low price of only $4.99.*** “Get busy living or get busy dying.” – Andy Dufresne in Shawshank Redemption “Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. … Continue reading “Fickle equals fully fake repentance”
Abusing God’s Name
Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth … Continue reading “Abusing God’s Name”
But She Claims To Be a Christian…
Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. I Corinthians 7:15, NASB When a partner is abusive and leaves or forces a faithful partner to separate, is a divorce an option for the abused partner … Continue reading “But She Claims To Be a Christian…”