This is how the birth of Jesus the Messiah came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit. Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, … Continue reading “Jesus, Joseph, Mary, and Divorce on Christmas”
Category: Theology of divorce
Community Divorce Grief
Divorce impacts a community. Like the sin of adultery, it is not a private affair (see Deut. 22:22). The divorce hits the whole network of relationships. It is painful to face the reality that a couple is no longer a couple. This is doubly so when you like and connected with both spouses. This way … Continue reading “Community Divorce Grief”
“Failed Marriage” Usage
Divorce = “Failed Marriage” Is a marriage that ends other than in divorce thereby “successful?” I may be speaking from my own baggage or sensitivities on this. Plenty of divorced individuals seem to have no problem with this word selection. However, I do not like the word choice where “failed marriage” is used interchangeably for … Continue reading ““Failed Marriage” Usage”
Boundary setting NOT punishment dealing
Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. -Galatians 6:7, NIV Setting a boundary is NOT about setting a punishment for the other person. The boundary is there to healthfully preserve you from whatever threatens your well-being. It is not a punishment. Rather, the boundary is a step towards … Continue reading “Boundary setting NOT punishment dealing”
When a cheater-ex gets remarried…
“And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.” -Mark 10:12, NLT Unless a biblical exception is met (like your now ex-spouse cheated on you), this holds true in a spiritual sense. The remarriage is adultery in God’s eyes. It ought not to surprise us, though, this does not deter … Continue reading “When a cheater-ex gets remarried…”
Repentant cheaters make peace with deserved losses
I will set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired servants.’ -Luke 15:18-19, NIV Until a cheater has made peace with the idea that their sins … Continue reading “Repentant cheaters make peace with deserved losses”
Don’t Bother.
Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be just like him. -Proverbs 26:4, NIV Has your cheater stopped cheating? Has she/he confessed the extent of the infidelity in their past? Are the affair secrets out in the open? I do not see much hope for marriages ravaged by infidelity … Continue reading “Don’t Bother.”
Pastor Associated By Faithful Spouses
Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction. -2 Timothy 4:2, NIV To be helped, we need to be open to receiving. Maybe the Christian community turned on you when you decided to divorce your cheater or your cheater decided to divorce you? Maybe your cheater … Continue reading “Pastor Associated By Faithful Spouses”
I do NOT want YOU to work it out!
***My eBook is releasing tomorrow: Monday, November 12th!!! Get your copy now while it is still on the low price of only $4.99.*** I don’t want you to work it out… …if your adulterous spouse is unrepentant. I simply do not. I wish more pastors would take this stance and verbalize it to their congregants. … Continue reading “I do NOT want YOU to work it out!”
Both/And NOT Either/Or, Pastors!
***My eBook is releasing in less than a week!!! Monday, November 12th. Get your copy now while it is still on the low price of only $4.99.*** THE “EITHER/OR”: EITHER you support marriages OR you support those going through divorce. When Mrs. DM and I were at our former church, I proposed to offer my services … Continue reading “Both/And NOT Either/Or, Pastors!”