“I will punish her for all those times when she … went out to look for her lovers but forgot all about me,” says the Lord. “But then I will win her back once again.” -Hosea 2:13a,c, 14a, NIV But God stays married to us even though we are unfaithful to Him. Repeat after me: Hosea is … Continue reading “But God Stayed Married to Cheating Israel…”
Category: Theology of divorce
God On Breaking Up Homes Following Adultery
The Idolatry of “Intact” Homes If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, NIV God did not prioritize keeping the marriage together over dealing with the evil of adultery in the Old … Continue reading “God On Breaking Up Homes Following Adultery”
Dear DM, What does restitution look like in my situation?
Dear Divorce Minister, My wife committed adultery 16 years ago. I forgave and renew my vows on tremendously incomplete information. She recently confessed to the entirety of the adultery after we have had 3 wonderful children. I can say with out hesitation I would have not continued in the marriage if I would have known … Continue reading “Dear DM, What does restitution look like in my situation?”
Cheaters Treat Marriage As Disposable
Christian leaders seem to worry that allowing any divorce is to open the flood gates to every divorce. The idea is permitting divorce necessarily means taking a disposable stance towards the covenant of marriage. This is just not so. God does not take marriage lightly, and He is described in the Bible as divorcing Israel: And I saw, when … Continue reading “Cheaters Treat Marriage As Disposable”
Is God always on the side of the marriage?
“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from … Continue reading “Is God always on the side of the marriage?”
“I don’t want to pick sides.” – “Friend”
“I don’t want to pick sides in this,” says a Christian “friend.” A person saying this is communicating to the adultery victim that they think something could justify their victimization. Let’s be clear: They ARE picking a side. It is the side of the adulterous spouse. This is not a godly response to faithful spouses seeking … Continue reading ““I don’t want to pick sides.” – “Friend””
Pastors, committing adultery is the real shameful act here!
But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away. -Proverbs 6:32-33, NIV The real shame is not faithful spouses divorcing cheaters, pastors. The real shame is Christians committing adultery! Preaching or counseling against divorce is a little late when it comes … Continue reading “Pastors, committing adultery is the real shameful act here!”
Children Deserve the Truth
Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices…. -Colossians 3:9, NIV A lie to a child is still a lie. As Christians, we are to be people who speak truth and not lies. This applies to children of divorce following infidelity. A lie is a lie. Now, we … Continue reading “Children Deserve the Truth”
“I’m sure there were issues on both sides…”
“I’m sure there were issues on both sides. There always are.” -Christian “friend” One of the many things that astound me with this all too common response from other Christians regarding a divorce is how cheap they sell out their so called “friends.” Do you think so little of your Christian friends that you believe … Continue reading ““I’m sure there were issues on both sides…””
“Why did she HAVE TO leave?”
“Why did she HAVE TO leave?” – Cheater Apologist This is a loaded question. If you even attempt to answer the question, you will lose. No good ways to answer this question exist. It is like the classic loaded question: “When will you stop beating your wife?” Like this question assuming that you are beating … Continue reading ““Why did she HAVE TO leave?””