All day long you plot destruction. Your tongue cuts like a sharp razor; you’re an expert at telling lies. You love evil more than good and lies more than truth. -Psalm 52:2-3, NLT I am a firm believer when it comes to full disclosure to the faithful spouse regarding what the cheater did. Darkness is only … Continue reading “Can you live with the lies?”
Category: Theology of divorce
Not Funny: “I am so glad my wife puts up with me. Ha. Ha.”
Some Pharisees came to him to test him [Jesus]. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” -Matthew 19:3, NIV Jesus’ response (summarized): NO. Divorce is only permissible for sexual immorality (see Matthew 19:9). It is healthy to extend grace to our spouses for their foibles … Continue reading “Not Funny: “I am so glad my wife puts up with me. Ha. Ha.””
Reconciling Cheaters, Better Bring Your “A” Game!
Thus saith the LORD, Where is the bill of your mother’s divorcement, whom I have put away? or which of my creditors is it to whom I have sold you? Behold, for your iniquities have ye sold yourselves, and for your transgressions is your mother put away. -Isaiah 50:1, KJV A cheater is not … Continue reading “Reconciling Cheaters, Better Bring Your “A” Game!”
What was the most confusing thing about the experience?
What was the most confusing part of the experience? So much is confusing and difficult when discovering a spouse has been unfaithful. So called “Christian” advice to forgive and forget in an effort to “save” the marriage is a big piece that adds to the confusion of the day. Another candidate for most confusing is the … Continue reading “What was the most confusing thing about the experience?”
Does Feminism Cause Divorce?
Test all things; hold fast what is good. Abstain from every form of evil. -I Thessalonians 5:21-22, NKJV Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves….Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, … Continue reading “Does Feminism Cause Divorce?”
Jesus did NOT quote Malachi 2:16 on divorce…
“For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel…. -Malachi 2:16a, NASB “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew 19:9, NASB Jesus did not quote the infamous passage from Malachi on divorce: “I [God] hate divorce.” This is an important observation … Continue reading “Jesus did NOT quote Malachi 2:16 on divorce…”
Divorce Is NOT Your End!
The LORD blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12, NIV Divorce is scary. It is made unnecessarily so–in part–by a Christian culture bent on blaming faithful spouses. Singleness is hardly an ideal state in the Christian community, and divorced singles have the added burden of dealing with the … Continue reading “Divorce Is NOT Your End!”
Cheaters will generally return to their “vomit.”
As a dog returns to its vomit, so fools repeat their folly. -Proverbs 26:11, NIV Committing adultery is foolish, foolish behavior. The Bible names it as such in Proverbs 5. And the general observation from chapter twenty-six is that fools repeat such folly. Maybe this does not happen always, but it does usually as this … Continue reading “Cheaters will generally return to their “vomit.””
Ungodly Counsel as Catnip to Cheaters
“Can’t you see?! You’ve divorced her in your heart.” -“Christian” Lay Counselor Such a statement is highly irresponsible. It is like waving catnip in front of a cheater. They are likely to take this statement and go forth to act as if they are truly not married (even though they are). A “Christian” leader trying to … Continue reading “Ungodly Counsel as Catnip to Cheaters”
Cheaters Are NOT Martyrs But Rather Aggressors!
And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” –I Corinthians 6:16, NLT Cheaters seem to enjoy playing the “martyr card.” They claim their spouse did not give them enough sex or emotional attention. “We … Continue reading “Cheaters Are NOT Martyrs But Rather Aggressors!”