My introduction to The Gospel Coalition (TGC) took place mostly while I was in seminary at Yale. I was definitely influenced by the leading members of this group including Piper and Keller, in particular. However, as I have matured as a Christian and walked through the difficult valleys of adultery discovery and divorce, I am … Continue reading “The Gospel Coalition (TGC) Controversies As Voiced By Nate Sparks”
Category: Theology of divorce
When we are talking months, years, or even decades of cheating…
Dear friends, if we deliberately continue sinning after we have received knowledge of the truth, there is no longer any sacrifice that will cover these sins. -Hebrews 10:26, NLT The longer someone has led a double-life of cheating, the less likely they will be able to repent and change. What sacrifice remains to cover that … Continue reading “When we are talking months, years, or even decades of cheating…”
Like A Boss
“No weapon formed against you shall prosper, And every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, And their righteousness is from Me,” Says the Lord. -Isaiah 54:17, NKJV Too often we, faithful spouses, do not give ourselves enough credit for what we … Continue reading “Like A Boss”
Refuse To Get Sucked Into Their Warped Reality
There is more hope for fools than for people who think they are wise. –Proverbs 26:12, NLT They traded the truth about God for a lie…. –Romans 1:25a, NLT Cheaters can come across as so confident in their lies. This confidence has the power to make even the most stalwart faithful spouse second-guess their instincts, hard evidence, … Continue reading “Refuse To Get Sucked Into Their Warped Reality”
Kept It On To The End
DM in Fall 2012 When to take off the wedding ring? This is a debated subject. When is the right time to remove one’s wedding ring? Is it okay to take it off when the divorce papers are filed? After discovering infidelity? Only when the official papers are signed? This subject is not settled in … Continue reading “Kept It On To The End”
Reconciliation Industrial Complex (RIC) And The Church
They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that! – 2 Timothy 3:5, NLT The Reconciliation Industrial Complex (RIC) is a term used on the Chump Lady blog, which is a website devoted to supporting faithful spouses or “chumps.” On her website, … Continue reading “Reconciliation Industrial Complex (RIC) And The Church”
Where Is This Madness Written?
And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. – Leviticus 20:10, KJV And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer … Continue reading “Where Is This Madness Written?”
Even Our Most-Forgiving God Required Repentance
“If you want to come back, O Israel, you must really come back to me. You must get rid of your stinking sin paraphernalia and not wander away from me anymore.” -Jeremiah 4:1 (from 1-2 block), THE MESSAGE This verse comes on the heals of the chapter where God declares His divorce of Israel over … Continue reading “Even Our Most-Forgiving God Required Repentance”
“No Divorce Allowed!” Legalists
11th Commandment- Thou Shalt Not Divorce.* -Hardline, Evangelical Fundamentalists on Divorce (e.g. John Piper) For all who rely on the works of the law are under a curse, as it is written: “Cursed is everyone who does not continue to do everything written in the Book of the Law.” – Galatians 3:10, NIV *Addendum: If … Continue reading ““No Divorce Allowed!” Legalists”
God’s Forgiveness Is Great But What About Adultery Victim Care?
Learn to do good. Seek justice. Help the oppressed. Defend the cause of orphans. Fight for the rights of widows. -Isaiah 1:17, NLT An observation I’ve noticed is how evangelicals are quick to point to God’s forgiveness for adulterers and adulteresses while totally ignoring their victims. It as as if faithful spouses do not exist … Continue reading “God’s Forgiveness Is Great But What About Adultery Victim Care?”