“‘Plead with your mother, plead: for she is not my wife, neither am I her husband: let her therefore put away her whoredoms out of her sight, and her adulteries from between her breasts….’” -Hosea 2:2, KJV Obviously, take him back?! Much “Christian” teaching places such an emphasis on keeping marriages “intact” that they insist … Continue reading “Obviously taken him or her back?!”
Category: Theology of divorce
The Insane Church-y Pressure To Appear “Forgiving”
They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. -Jeremiah 6:14, NIV The pressure from Christians to appear forgiving towards adulterous spouses or exes is incredible. This pressure was enshrined in my ecclesiastical trial to retain my minister’s license. They probed around … Continue reading “The Insane Church-y Pressure To Appear “Forgiving””
Book Review: THE SUBTLE POWER OF SPIRITUAL ABUSE by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen
–A Book Review– The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping Spiritual Manipulation and False Spiritual Authority Within the Church by (Pastor) David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen Much of my work on this blog is dealing with spiritual abuse surrounding infidelity discovery and its aftermath including divorce. The literature for Christian faithful spouses on … Continue reading “Book Review: THE SUBTLE POWER OF SPIRITUAL ABUSE by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen”
God Does Not Pursue Forever Either!
“Then He will also say to those on the left hand, ‘Depart from Me, you cursed, into the everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels….’” – Matthew 25:41, NKJV Somehow evangelical theology has become so twisted as to promote a distorted picture of God. This picture states that God is always in pursuit … Continue reading “God Does Not Pursue Forever Either!”
On Forced Sabbaticals For The Divorced
“Do to others as you would like them to do to you.” -Luke 6:31, NLT Unbiblical divorce prejudice is insidious. Christian leaders can think themselves completely immune, and that is when they are most dangerous. They are not able to take feedback about their blind-spots on such matters, which may result in further harm to … Continue reading “On Forced Sabbaticals For The Divorced”
Here is to the Courageously Divorced!!!
Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly. -Mathew 1:19, NIV Sometimes divorce is the best of the bad options left. Today, I want to celebrate the courageous ones. The divorced who chose ridicule from pastors, … Continue reading “Here is to the Courageously Divorced!!!”
Narrative From Pastors Needs Changing
“‘If a man divorces a woman and she goes and marries someone else, he will not take her back again, for that would surely corrupt the land. But you have prostituted yourself with many lovers, so why are you trying to come back to me?’ says the Lord.” -Jeremiah 3:1, NLT “If another believer sins, rebuke … Continue reading “Narrative From Pastors Needs Changing”
Satan Quoted Scripture, Too!
And he brought him to Jerusalem, and set him on a pinnacle of the temple, and said unto him, “If thou be the Son of God, cast thyself down from hence: For it is written, ‘He shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee: And in their hands they shall bear thee up, lest at … Continue reading “Satan Quoted Scripture, Too!”
SGM Scandals and What Ought To Go Without Saying…
“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew 19:9, NIV Recently, an article was published online by The Washingtonian about The Sovereign Grace Ministries (SGM) scandals that include stories of child molestation and alleged cover-ups by pastors. This ministry family of churches included such evangelical-land … Continue reading “SGM Scandals and What Ought To Go Without Saying…”
Pastors, Why Not Treat Adultery As Abuse?
If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? -I John 4:20, NKJV What bothers–and astounds–me is how typical infidelity or adultery is treated as a symptom or side-issue … Continue reading “Pastors, Why Not Treat Adultery As Abuse?”