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One day he [the serpent] asked the woman, “Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden?” Genesis 3:1b, NLT Partial truth lies are the most dangerous. We see the example of this here in the story of how humans sinned and fell from grace. The … Continue reading “Partial truths are dangerous LIES!”

  “If someone says, ‘I love God,’ but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?” -I John 4:20, NLT Religious cheaters are the worst. It is bad enough dealing with a cheater. A religious cheater … Continue reading “Religious cheaters are awful!”

 She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery.  -Jeremiah 3:8a, NLT The never-divorce stance of some Christians and pastors puts faithful spouses in a very passive position. They just have to take the abuse. Something is fundamentally wrong with one’s theology when accepting (and enabling, even) sin is what is taught. One … Continue reading ““Never Divorce” Stance harms faithful spouse agency”

4 And he would not for a while: but afterward he said within himself, “Though I fear not God, nor regard man; 5 Yet because this widow troubleth me, I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me.” -Luke 18:4-5, KJV A while back, I remember a mentor, Pastor Gary Gilbertson, teaching on this … Continue reading “I love being wanted–even if it is only by a pet.”

July is a beautiful month in Minnesota (see picture above). This is the month that I have the opportunity to get away with family and recharge on some water in the North of the state. So, this means I will be on vacation shortly for a few days. Sometimes I am able to post during … Continue reading “DM on vacation and competing soon!”

One of the many difficulties of dealing with a cheater is how they induce panic and anxiety in us. I can remember feeling such panic and anxiety during each interaction with my cheater. Maybe it is just me?! But I doubt it. This fear and panic comes from all the nasty surprises one gets in … Continue reading “Cheater created anxieties”

For the Lord is righteous,     he loves justice…. -Psalm 11:7a, NIV Caring for faithful spouses is a justice issue, in my opinion. I know many  issues in this world are related to the imbalance of justice. Adultery and adultery victims are not the only ones suffering from a world run through with injustice. Yet they are suffering injustices. If … Continue reading “Indifference to injustice is not a godly option”

  “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd sacrifices his life for the sheep. “ -John 10:11, NLT Holding onto to the belief in God’s goodness is a real fete of soul strength during the time of infidelity discovery and divorce. I know it is not easy. It is a real test of one’s … Continue reading “What are you doing to care for your soul?”