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  “If someone says, ‘I love God,’ but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?” -I John 4:20, NLT Religious cheaters are the worst. It is bad enough dealing with a cheater. A religious cheater … Continue reading “Religious cheaters are awful!”

 She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery.  -Jeremiah 3:8a, NLT The never-divorce stance of some Christians and pastors puts faithful spouses in a very passive position. They just have to take the abuse. Something is fundamentally wrong with one’s theology when accepting (and enabling, even) sin is what is taught. One … Continue reading ““Never Divorce” Stance harms faithful spouse agency”

4 And he would not for a while: but afterward he said within himself, “Though I fear not God, nor regard man; 5 Yet because this widow troubleth me, I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me.” -Luke 18:4-5, KJV A while back, I remember a mentor, Pastor Gary Gilbertson, teaching on this … Continue reading “I love being wanted–even if it is only by a pet.”

July is a beautiful month in Minnesota (see picture above). This is the month that I have the opportunity to get away with family and recharge on some water in the North of the state. So, this means I will be on vacation shortly for a few days. Sometimes I am able to post during … Continue reading “DM on vacation and competing soon!”

One of the many difficulties of dealing with a cheater is how they induce panic and anxiety in us. I can remember feeling such panic and anxiety during each interaction with my cheater. Maybe it is just me?! But I doubt it. This fear and panic comes from all the nasty surprises one gets in … Continue reading “Cheater created anxieties”

For the Lord is righteous,     he loves justice…. -Psalm 11:7a, NIV Caring for faithful spouses is a justice issue, in my opinion. I know many  issues in this world are related to the imbalance of justice. Adultery and adultery victims are not the only ones suffering from a world run through with injustice. Yet they are suffering injustices. If … Continue reading “Indifference to injustice is not a godly option”

  “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd sacrifices his life for the sheep. “ -John 10:11, NLT Holding onto to the belief in God’s goodness is a real fete of soul strength during the time of infidelity discovery and divorce. I know it is not easy. It is a real test of one’s … Continue reading “What are you doing to care for your soul?”

Disgraced, former Hillsong pastor, Carl Lentz, was allegedly involved in committing adultery for years! In fact, I probably would rather categorize these relationships as Clergy Sexual Abuse as he is alleged to have been sleeping with members of his own church since 2017! This is ugly. All of this demonstrates why “Taking Adultery Seriously” remains … Continue reading “Carl Lentz Story Much Worse!”

“Fear not; you will no longer live in shame.     Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you.” -Isaiah 54:4a, NLT Can we claim the promises in this chapter even though they are about Israel? Yes. These are words to God’s people. We are God’s people as children of God (see I John 3:1). … Continue reading “Promises from Isaiah 54”