Well, it is another would have been anniversary today. I thought I would feel sadder than I do today. It is odd how that first wedding feels like a lifetime away. The person involved seems like a different person than me–even though, I know that’s not true. This used to be a really hard day … Continue reading “Would’ve been 16th Anniversary”
Author: Divorce Minister
Totally seared
Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron…. -I Timothy 4:2, KJV Hypocritical liars will deceive many, and their consciences won’t bother them at all! -I Timothy 4:2, TPT While this verse is really about false teachers leading people astray, I think it applies to cheaters as well. This verse reminds … Continue reading “Totally seared”
Toxic “Christian” Leaders
15 Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. 16 If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? -James 2:14-16, NIV Plenty of Christian leaders will tell you that they love you and are praying … Continue reading “Toxic “Christian” Leaders”
Detox your soul through thanksgiving
Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever. -Psalm 107:1, NIV Sometimes we need a detox from seeing the vile stuff cheaters and their supporters do. I think the best way to do this detox is by giving thanks. We all have things for which we can give thanks. Even the breath … Continue reading “Detox your soul through thanksgiving”
Religious cheaters are awful!
“If someone says, ‘I love God,’ but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?” -I John 4:20, NLT Religious cheaters are the worst. It is bad enough dealing with a cheater. A religious cheater … Continue reading “Religious cheaters are awful!”
If God allows divorce, He also allows remarriage.
When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when … Continue reading “If God allows divorce, He also allows remarriage.”
God did not fail as the head of the marriage!
She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery. -Jeremiah 3:8a, NLT For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church…. -Ephesians 5:23a, KJV When pastors and elders choose to blame marriages ending on men failing as “spiritual heads,” I would like them to … Continue reading “God did not fail as the head of the marriage!”
Extravagant Good God!
Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think…. -Ephesians 3:20a, KJV God is God. This means we are not. This is important to remember when suffering the awful injustices and losses of adultery discovery and divorce. Just because we cannot see a way forward does … Continue reading “Extravagant Good God!”
Regarding boasts of “saved marriages”
When pastors or Christian counselors boast of “saved marriages,” I am immediately skeptical. Usually, this means the couple did not divorce. It really says nothing about whether or not repentance took place on the part of the cheater. The spiritual health of the spouses is not really addressed or defined with such numbers. “Saving” a … Continue reading “Regarding boasts of “saved marriages””
Will you have faith in the coming Light?
And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him. -Hebrews 11:6, NIV When our worlds are blown up and we feel like all is darkness, we are faced with a choice: Do I believe the Light … Continue reading “Will you have faith in the coming Light?”