And Pharaoh hardened his heart at this time also, neither would he let the people go. -Exodus 8:32, KJV Cheaters become cheaters by going down “The Road of Bad Choices.” They have hard hearts because they have chosen to harden their hearts just as Pharaoh did. I make this point for two reasons: 1) I suspect … Continue reading “The Road of Bad Choices”
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Entering God’s Presence
Who is allowed into God’s presence? The Psalmist answers this way: Those who despise flagrant sinners, and honor the faithful followers of the Lord, and keep their promises even when it hurts. -Psalm 15:4, NLT If we believe the Bible and the Psalmist here, this means those who celebrate the adulterous will not enter God’s presence. … Continue reading “Entering God’s Presence”
Robbed of that safety and security
One of the losses that comes with adultery discovery is the loss of a safety and security. No longer can you trust your spouse against the world. This is a big loss. It is hard to compute often times. We have committed our lives to this person only to be so deeply betrayed. It is … Continue reading “Robbed of that safety and security”
Regarding those Deadwood “friends”
But Jesus said, “Judas, would you betray the Son of Man with a kiss?” -Luke 22:48, NLT Some “friends” will “kiss” you with words-bespeaking of their love for you-while they further the cheater’s agenda of blame-shifting the infidelity and divorce upon you. It is confusing enough dealing with the lies and deceptions of a cheater. … Continue reading “Regarding those Deadwood “friends””
Upset “friend” not having fun
When a spouse is more concerned about the feelings of a “friend” than the feelings of their spouse, you know they have crossed the line emotionally with this “friend.” Such a response is very telling and revealing. When a “friend” takes priority over a spouse, you know something is seriously out of whack. That is … Continue reading “Upset “friend” not having fun”
73,000 Views in 2022!
We had a quieter year this past year on Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously– 73,285 Views with 30,841 individual visitors from over 160 different countries or territories to the blog. Still, that is a decent amount of traffic to the website. I am glad that it continues to minister to people. We will … Continue reading “73,000 Views in 2022!”
Happy New Year!
Wishing all a Happy New Year! May God bless you with new beginnings and restored dreams. It may look different than you expected, but God is in the business of transforming ashes into riches.
Response Tells You They’re Lying About You
Faithful Spouse: [Setting a healthy boundary] “Our relationship is over. We won’t be friends any more, unless you end it with John [Affair Partner] and work to convince me you’ve shut the door to all others.” Cheater: “You’re being so manipulative. Fine. I guess we won’t be friends.” …one month passes with minimal to zero … Continue reading “Response Tells You They’re Lying About You”
Divorce and those narrative gaps
When we divorce our cheater, faithful spouses often do not know the full story (and probably won’t ever). This is one of the traumatic aspects of marrying a cheater. They have all the knowledge of who and when they slept with someone else. But they are unwilling to give that to information to their spouse. … Continue reading “Divorce and those narrative gaps”
A necessary ending
If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, NIV While we do not kill adulterous parties anymore in the USA, I do believe we can derive some wisdom from this verse. The finality of … Continue reading “A necessary ending”