Is every criticism worth consuming? Do we always learn something about ourselves from a criticism? Short answer: No. If someone knows you tend to always “consume” or take to heart a criticism, this gives that individual incredible power over you. They are able to control you via their criticism. This is unhealthy and ungodly. Fearing … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: On Consuming Criticism”
Author: Divorce Minister
Cheater-Speak: “It’s not like I was trying to cheat on you.”
“It’s not like I was trying to cheat on you. It just sort of happened.” -Cheater A cheater speaking like this is an unrepentant cheater. How do I know? Well, repentance starts with the honesty of owning one’s own choices and behavior. The cheater speaking like this is not being honest on those fronts. To this … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “It’s not like I was trying to cheat on you.””
A non-disappointing hope
And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love. -Romans 5:5, NLT Hope is precious. We need hope to live. It is just as important to our living as food and water. The … Continue reading “A non-disappointing hope”
Denigrating sharing by cheaters
“She was being unfair. Jane knew just what a good soldier her husband was, but a woman who has deserted her man and stolen his fortune soon learns to denigrate his memory as a justification for her actions.” -Bernarnd Cornwell, Waterloo (#11) (Sharpe Book 20), New York, New York: Penguin Books, 1987, pp65. The above … Continue reading “Denigrating sharing by cheaters”
God has higher ways and thoughts!
8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. 9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts. -Isaiah 55:8-9, KJV If your god is so small that you fully understand him and his ways, … Continue reading “God has higher ways and thoughts!”
Happy Labor Day!
A decade ago now, I was in NYC with my best friends. They were kind enough to distract me from my disintegrating marriage. It was a very good time together. I am grateful for those friends. They were and are true brothers. May you have a blessed Labor Day today! Hope you find excellent and … Continue reading “Happy Labor Day!”
Just grateful
Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ…. -Ephesians 5:20, KJV I believe gratitude is the secret to healthy living–spiritually speaking. When we choose to be grateful, we are choosing to see the many gifts in our lives and focus on real positives. Life … Continue reading “Just grateful”
Encouraging Song of Faith
Faith shows the reality of what we hope for; it is the evidence of things we cannot see. -Hebrews 11:1 Colton Dixon’s “Build a Boat” is a song that a friend recently shared. I love the lyrics of this song. It is a song of faith. This is a song declaring faith. It is a … Continue reading “Encouraging Song of Faith”
If it is about power over…
But Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers in this world lord it over their people, and officials flaunt their authority over those under them.” -Matthew 20:25, NLT “You will just keep that [her cheating] over her head forever [if she stayed married to you].” -Cheater apologist Some people view all relationships … Continue reading “If it is about power over…”
Grown toddler tantrums
Did you ever feel like the big, bad parent with your cheater? I think sometimes some engage in cheating behavior as a way to try and resolve family issues (non-therapist speaking here). They did not feel safe to do that with their mother or father. So, the faithful spouse gets all their rebellion in its … Continue reading “Grown toddler tantrums”