Today (Thursday, September 15), I leave to go to Kansas City for a spiritual retreat. As such, I am going to take a break from my regular postings. The retreat runs from today, September 15, through Sunday, September 18. After this, I will plan on resuming my regular postings. Thanks for understanding!
Author: Divorce Minister
“A cry for help” affair excuse nonsense
“Don’t you see it [the cheating] was a cry for help?! If only you had ____ (fill in favorite cheater grievance with faithful spouse) more, then I wouldn’t have cheated.” -Unfaithful spouse Using the “Cry for help” excuse for an affair–either emotional or physical–is manipulation pure and simple. The cheater is using this label to … Continue reading ““A cry for help” affair excuse nonsense”
Ready
For You, Lord, are good, and ready to forgive, And abundant in mercy to all those who call upon You. -Psalm 86:5, NKJV “God is ready to forgive.” -Diane Langberg, Ph.D. I was on an online event today where Dr. Diane Langberg spoke. She brought this point up about forgiveness as a point about God’s forgiveness. The idea … Continue reading “Ready”
Religious types and apologists
This raised concerns among the Jewish religious leaders and experts of the law. Indignant, they grumbled and complained, saying, “Look at how this man associates with all these notorious sinners and welcomes them all to come to him!” -Luke 15:2, TPT Funny how cheaters and their apologists will appeal to “Christian” ideals when it serves … Continue reading “Religious types and apologists”
Emotional Affair Hogwash
But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. -Matthew 5:28, NLT I am convinced Cheaters will generally admit the “lesser” of their sins when caught. This means in an evangelical Christian world that they will admit an emotional affair before they admit … Continue reading “Emotional Affair Hogwash”
Pro-Tip: On Consuming Criticism
Is every criticism worth consuming? Do we always learn something about ourselves from a criticism? Short answer: No. If someone knows you tend to always “consume” or take to heart a criticism, this gives that individual incredible power over you. They are able to control you via their criticism. This is unhealthy and ungodly. Fearing … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: On Consuming Criticism”
Cheater-Speak: “It’s not like I was trying to cheat on you.”
“It’s not like I was trying to cheat on you. It just sort of happened.” -Cheater A cheater speaking like this is an unrepentant cheater. How do I know? Well, repentance starts with the honesty of owning one’s own choices and behavior. The cheater speaking like this is not being honest on those fronts. To this … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “It’s not like I was trying to cheat on you.””
A non-disappointing hope
And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love. -Romans 5:5, NLT Hope is precious. We need hope to live. It is just as important to our living as food and water. The … Continue reading “A non-disappointing hope”
Denigrating sharing by cheaters
“She was being unfair. Jane knew just what a good soldier her husband was, but a woman who has deserted her man and stolen his fortune soon learns to denigrate his memory as a justification for her actions.” -Bernarnd Cornwell, Waterloo (#11) (Sharpe Book 20), New York, New York: Penguin Books, 1987, pp65. The above … Continue reading “Denigrating sharing by cheaters”
God has higher ways and thoughts!
8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. 9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts. -Isaiah 55:8-9, KJV If your god is so small that you fully understand him and his ways, … Continue reading “God has higher ways and thoughts!”