Pro-Tip: When the cheater is more concerned about how you found out than the damaged they did to you, then you know they are not remorseful. This is the behavior of someone who is looking for the source of the leaked information. People ask such questions to continue their behavior. They are looking to plug … Continue reading “When they are more concerned about how you found out…”
Author: Divorce Minister
Unwanted (at the time) path
“…when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go.” -John 21:18b, NIV Unfortunately, I was the first. Somehow, my huge family had never experienced a divorce on either side of the immediate family. But I became the first … Continue reading “Unwanted (at the time) path”
Lying lifestyle spiritual problem for cheaters
19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved. -John 3:19-20, KJV I have a theory about why some cheaters refuse to … Continue reading “Lying lifestyle spiritual problem for cheaters”
God did NOT send the Other Woman or Other Man to your spouse!
God is never tempted to do wrong, and he never tempts anyone else. -James 1:13b, NLT God did not send the Other Woman (OW) or Other Man (OM) into your spouse’s life. It is sad that this even needs to be stated. However, I am sure plenty of readers here have heard their cheater try … Continue reading “God did NOT send the Other Woman or Other Man to your spouse!”
Let the cheater go!
But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. -I Corinthians 7:15, KJV Let the cheater leave! If a cheater is hell-bent on denying Christ by their actions, let them. This is on them. I see this … Continue reading “Let the cheater go!”
Then it ALL started to make sense…
Relief. The months of stone-cold or downright cruel responses. Warmth disappearing overnight like a Minnesotan May blizzard. It all started to make sense. I wasn’t imagining things. The Other Man. He existed. Had existed for months! This is one of the strangest and most surreal parts of discovering infidelity. The moment of confirmation is not only … Continue reading “Then it ALL started to make sense…”
Cheater curses
As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come. -Proverbs 26:2, KJV Cheaters and their apologists say all sort of cruel and awful things about the faithful spouse. I would consider these things curses. They are using their mouth to degrade and attack the faithful party. It … Continue reading “Cheater curses”
Happy Mother’s Day to you, faithful moms!
The stories I have heard about the mighty moms from this community is truly amazing! Today is a celebration of you: all the natural or spiritual moms who have weathered this awful storm. I hope you do something special for yourself today.
Forever belonging
In healthy spirituality, belonging is never “on the table.” For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father. -Romans 8:15, KJV When I am struggling with fear, I am usually disconnected from this truth found in Romans 8:15. The … Continue reading “Forever belonging”
Words a faithful spouse needs to hear
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV “Yes, it happened. She cheated on you. And that’s right: you didn’t deserve it. It’s not your fault. Not at all.” You really want to help a faithful spouse. … Continue reading “Words a faithful spouse needs to hear”