Author: Divorce Minister

They already think they are special.

“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV Cheaters do not need reminders of their specialness. They need reminders that they are accountable for their sinful behavior. A godly pastor will keep this in mind when dealing with a cheater. … Continue reading “They already think they are special.”

Another alleged cheating megachurch pastor: Tavner Smith of Venue Church

“Smith said he are ‘great friends’ with the employee but not ‘sexually involved.’ He admitted the two had kissed, but only after they stopped living with their spouses …. ‘As long as she is still married, we are not going to have any type of romantic relations,’ he said.” -Anugrah Kumar, “Audio of Venue Church … Continue reading “Another alleged cheating megachurch pastor: Tavner Smith of Venue Church”

When you need help to pray, choose a song as your prayer!

The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in him, and I am helped: therefore my heart greatly rejoiceth; and with my song will I praise him. -Psalm 28:7, KJV When I was struggling with the end of my first marriage, I found songs helped me through the dark valley. They became my prayers. … Continue reading “When you need help to pray, choose a song as your prayer!”

Hope grows when we have faith in God’s love for us!

Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. -Hebrews 11:1, NIV Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love. -I Corinthians 13:13, NLT When going through the darkness, faith in God’s goodness is important. This faith is an act of … Continue reading “Hope grows when we have faith in God’s love for us!”

Do not call it “a mistake!”

Cheating on a spouse is not just “a mistake.” We all make mistakes. True. No one is perfect. However, plenty of people never commit adultery. Many people are not involved in raping their spouse’s soul. Plenty of individuals do not live double lives or engage in concerted gas-lighting behavior to keep their spouse from believing the … Continue reading “Do not call it “a mistake!””

Look for guilty, NOT shameful cheaters for promising change!

Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. -2 Corinthians 7:10, NIV When trying to determine real repentance, I recommend watching for a guilt-response as opposed to a shame-response from the cheater. What do I mean by a “guilt response” versus a “shame response?” A “guilt … Continue reading “Look for guilty, NOT shameful cheaters for promising change!”