Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. -John 3:20, NIV Have you ever noticed how the answers often go vague when a cheater is caught and is questioned regarding their sins? The cheater can vividly describe your “shortcomings.” No problem there. The … Continue reading “Cheaters and their vague answers”
Author: Divorce Minister
That “bitter card” play
Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. – Hebrews 12:14-15, NIV I am suspicious of … Continue reading “That “bitter card” play”
Cheaters using money to bully!
But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers. -I Timothy 5:8, NLT I remember the panic I felt when my cheater used her financial strength as a weapon against me. She was the one with the decent job … Continue reading “Cheaters using money to bully!”
God forgave, and yet King David still faced consequences for his sins!
Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “The Lord has taken away your sin. You are not going to die. But because by doing this you have shown utter contempt for the Lord, the son born to you will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NIV Forgiveness does NOT wipe out all consequences for the … Continue reading “God forgave, and yet King David still faced consequences for his sins!”
Repenteance first is how godly forgiveness has always worked!
If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land. -2 Chronicles 7:14, KJV “IF….and turn from their wicked ways; THEN…will forgive their sin….” … Continue reading “Repenteance first is how godly forgiveness has always worked!”
Freely chosen.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Cheaters freely chose to marry their spouses. This free choice came with the explicit commitment to exclusiveness. That is the usual marriage vow of “forsaking all others.” Now, if … Continue reading “Freely chosen.”
Those cheater tears!
“I could tell my father about how, a month after we separated, my ex called me up and told me through tears that he’d slept with someone else, and it wasn’t good, and could we still divorce but be friends with benefits?” -Hännah Ettinger in “Ending an abusive marriage is hard. Ending one in the … Continue reading “Those cheater tears!”
Backhanded cheater admissions
Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others. -Proverbs 12:15, NLT Sometimes the only thing a cheater might admit to doing wrong is a backhanded admission. What do I mean by “backhanded admission?” “I apologize for not speaking up sooner to tell you how you aren’t meeting my ‘needs.’” “My … Continue reading “Backhanded cheater admissions”
A fantastic resource: Michael Card on lament
So often the church has lost sight of how important lament is. God wants our honesty. And sometimes all we can give God is our tears and protests of pain. The following series of YouTube videos linked below lay out a teaching by the Christian musician, Michael Card, on the topic of lament. It blessed … Continue reading “A fantastic resource: Michael Card on lament”
Is “The Never Divorce Stance” really just plain old idolatry?
She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery. But that treacherous sister Judah had no fear, and now she, too, has left me and given herself to prostitution. -Jeremiah 3:8, NLT Is the “Never Divorce” stance on marriage really just plain, old idolatry? Now, before I answer this, I want to be clear … Continue reading “Is “The Never Divorce Stance” really just plain old idolatry?”