Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV “God forgives me. So what’s your problem?!” -Cheater Does … Continue reading “Not Cheap!”
Author: Divorce Minister
Red Flag: Empathy sin teaching
The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth. -John 1:14, NIV Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. -Romans 12:15, KJV Recently, empathy has encountered push back in … Continue reading “Red Flag: Empathy sin teaching”
To be seen
13 Thereafter, Hagar used another name to refer to the Lord, who had spoken to her. She said, “You are the God who sees me.” -Genesis 16:13a, NLT To be seen! I think this is a human need: to be truly seen and known. This is what God did for Hagar in her time of distress following … Continue reading “To be seen”
Powerful worship song
When I was in the pit of adultery discovery and the divorce discard, I was attending a church that regularly played a song with true spiritual power. It is a song that lifted and lifts my eyes from my circumstances and places them on God who is holy and perfect. The song is a version … Continue reading “Powerful worship song”
Aggressors, not victims!
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! -I Corinthians 6:15, NIV Cheater, you are the aggressor, not the victim, here! For whatever reasons, people are often taken in by the pity story a caught Cheater spins … Continue reading “Aggressors, not victims!”
Choices… Cheater choices.
“Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!” -Deuteronomy 30:19, NLT Choices, choices, and Cheater choices! The thing with Cheaters is … Continue reading “Choices… Cheater choices.”
Permission to divorce comes with permission to remarry
When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when … Continue reading “Permission to divorce comes with permission to remarry”
Suffer with you
“Let Me Show You the Way” is an old but favorite song from Michael W. Smith. He really captures the heart of true friendship. This song by MWS speaks to what I believe is a human longing. It is a longing for a good friend who loves at a deep, heart-level. These are the friends … Continue reading “Suffer with you”
What kind of harvest?
7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. 8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. 9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in … Continue reading “What kind of harvest?”
Communication issues? Really?!
“Sounds like you all need to learn how to better communicate,” says clueless pastor to Cheater and Faithful Spouse. This is such a pathetic cop out to the real problems a couple faces when infidelity has occurred. The problems are much deeper than “communication issues.” Adultery is sin. So, it is a sin, not a … Continue reading “Communication issues? Really?!”