Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Adulterous spouses have no shame. On one hand, they will willfully and maliciously disregard how their selfish sinful choices impact their children. Then, on the other hand, they will … Continue reading “Do it “FOR THE KIDS!””
Author: Divorce Minister
Cheaters, Churches, and Christianity
I can hardly believe the report about the sexual immorality going on among you—something that even pagans don’t do. I am told that a man in your church is living in sin with his stepmother. You are so proud of yourselves, but you should be mourning in sorrow and shame. And you should remove this man … Continue reading “Cheaters, Churches, and Christianity”
Cheater-Speak: “I just want to talk” Trojan Horse
“He wouldn’t talk to me about the REAL issues.” -Cheater “We never talked. She would nag but never discuss things with me.” -Cheater This was a favorite Trojan Horse of my now ex-wife. It was employed with “Christian” counselors, “friends,” and family as our marriage headed to its ultimate demise. Clearly, hiding behind the alleged … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I just want to talk” Trojan Horse”
Cheaters and Money Power
But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers. -I Timothy 5:8, NLT I remember the panic I felt when my cheater used her financial strength as a weapon against me. She was the one with the decent job … Continue reading “Cheaters and Money Power”
The Bitter Card
Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. – Hebrews 12:14-15, NIV I am suspicious of … Continue reading “The Bitter Card”
Counting Wedding Anniversaries
Today, I was at a training where grief was discussed. The speaker brought up the example of a mother who lost a child. She mentioned how the milestones of her friends’ kids may elicit pain for that individual. A light bulb went off in my head when she provided that example. This is not unlike … Continue reading “Counting Wedding Anniversaries”
God forgave, BUT King David’s son still died!
Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “The Lord has taken away your sin. You are not going to die. But because by doing this you have shown utter contempt for the Lord, the son born to you will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NIV Forgiveness does NOT wipe out all consequences for the … Continue reading “God forgave, BUT King David’s son still died!”
Happy Mother’s Day, Faithful Wives!
Happy Mother’s Day to all those faithful spouses who are mothers! The shame of a “broken home” is not upon you. You are modeling health and godliness when you refuse to tolerate infidelity in your marriage and home. You are teaching your children (and grandchildren) not to tolerate abuse as adultery is abuse, IMO. On … Continue reading “Happy Mother’s Day, Faithful Wives!”
Oh, Cheater tears!
“I could tell my father about how, a month after we separated, my ex called me up and told me through tears that he’d slept with someone else, and it wasn’t good, and could we still divorce but be friends with benefits?” -Hännah Ettinger in “Ending an abusive marriage is hard. Ending one in the … Continue reading “Oh, Cheater tears!”
Mailbag: God took back unfaithful Israel; Are we obligated as well?
A wrote, I am in the middle of divorce proceedings and I have not seen signs of repentence, and even so, know that I would not be required to stay. I do have a question from my own heart. I was reading in Psalm 106:32-48 this morning and was struck at the unfaithfulness of Israel … Continue reading “Mailbag: God took back unfaithful Israel; Are we obligated as well?”