Dear Divorce Minister, My ex-wife sent this email too me tonight. (Just in time to keep me up) “Hi L. I will soon be turning 66! The benefit of old age is that I will be eligible for social security. I went to the SS office and was told I can sign up for your … Continue reading “Mailbag: A Chump Again?”
Author: Divorce Minister
Dang old memories…
Grief comes in waves. It ambushes you sometimes from nowhere. I was collecting pictures for an old friend who knew me in my previously married state. In fact, he was the best man at that wedding–i.e. the wedding where I married my cheater. So, it is not surprising the review of those photos brought back … Continue reading “Dang old memories…”
Make them a mere footnote to your awesome story
So the Lord blessed Job in the second half of his life even more than in the beginning. -Job 42:12a, NLT Faithful Spouses, we have a choice: Do we keep on allowing the cheater to be the central player in our life story or do we go out and take command of our story forging decisions … Continue reading “Make them a mere footnote to your awesome story”
Whacked Out Crazy Cheaters
They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. -Jeremiah 6:14, NIV A common theme I’ve noticed over the years is how mental illness seems present with cheaters. They are often highly unstable types. Now, I am not a mental health provider and … Continue reading “Whacked Out Crazy Cheaters”
It was a hug for me.
“Goodbye in her eyes” by Zac Brown Band It wasn’t a kiss. It was a hug. We had just finished our dentist appointments. She had forgotten that she had made joint appointments. I had already confronted her about the Other Man about two weeks prior. She was still lying about him and still denying adultery. … Continue reading “It was a hug for me.”
Satire “Sermon” on Adultery
If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, KJV When adultery is committed, it hits the whole community. This is how the Bible teaches … Continue reading “Satire “Sermon” on Adultery”
Sing it and claim it in faith!
“My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand. My Father, which gave them me, is greater than all; and no man is able to pluck them out of my Father’s … Continue reading “Sing it and claim it in faith!”
More Vicious When Cheating
They demonstrate that God’s law is written in their hearts, for their own conscience and thoughts either accuse them or tell them they are doing right. -Romans 2:15, NLT Sometimes cheaters become crueler to their spouses when they are actively engaged in infidelity. They cheat and attend couples counseling where they tell the counselor or … Continue reading “More Vicious When Cheating”
Pro-Tip: Give up on trying to get narrative agreement!
A sage trying to work things out with a fool gets only scorn and sarcasm for his trouble. Proverbs 29:9, The Message When I was processing the end of my marriage and even while I was still fighting for it not to end in divorce, I wasted a lot of energy contending over the marriage narrative … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Give up on trying to get narrative agreement!”
Takes Two People: Job did NOT cheat!
Then his wife said to him, “Do you still hold fast to your integrity? Curse God and die!” But he said to her, “You speak as one of the foolish women speaks. Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?” – Job 2:9-10a, NKJV His wealth was all stolen. His … Continue reading “Takes Two People: Job did NOT cheat!”