When I open up to someone about what happened to me with my first marriage’s demise, I have found I still get upset if I share the full story. I have to fight the internal judge telling me that I “should” be detached in such recounting. I struggle to fight off the internal condemning voice … Continue reading “Still tough to tell.”
Author: Divorce Minister
Fools and Foolish Arguments.
Don’t answer the foolish arguments of fools, or you will become as foolish as they are. -Proverbs 26:4, NLT If someone is not willing to listen, save your breath. They have made up their mind, and you are best moving on. You do not need to stick your head into that mind-blender. Move on. Let … Continue reading “Fools and Foolish Arguments.”
Be still and RELAX!
“Be still, and know that I am God!” – Psalm 46:10a, NLT When I was in the shock stage, I often found myself drawing a warm bath with lavender bath salts to ease my stress. I would play worship music to encourage my soul as I soaked in the tub before or after I went … Continue reading “Be still and RELAX!”
When your cheater is a pastor or therapist…
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT Letting go and trusting a cheater to God is tough. I think this is especially so when the cheater counsels others and works in a field where … Continue reading “When your cheater is a pastor or therapist…”
Don’t blame age!
Then Samuel asked, “Are these all the sons you have?” “There is still the youngest,” Jesse replied. “But he’s out in the fields watching the sheep and goats.” “Send for him at once,” Samuel said. “We will not sit down to eat until he arrives.” -I Samuel 16:11, NLT Not much has changed in … Continue reading “Don’t blame age!”
Watch out if she asks you for “rules!”
“This is the covenant I will make with the people of Israel after that time,” declares the LORD. “I will put my law in their minds and write it on their hearts. I will be their God, and they will be my people.” -Jeremiah 31:33, NIV If your spouse lacks an internal moral compass, then … Continue reading “Watch out if she asks you for “rules!””
On hundreds of messages exchanged
But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God. -John 3:21, NIV Graphic pictures of compromising behavior seems to be almost needed to convince some pastors and Christians that a spouse is violating their … Continue reading “On hundreds of messages exchanged”
Who is his forgiveness for according to Jesus? Those who repent.
It was also written that this message would be proclaimed in the authority of his name to all the nations, beginning in Jerusalem: ‘There is forgiveness of sins for all who repent.’ -Luke 24:47, NLT Often faithful spouses are pushed to forgive with no reference to the cheater’s repentance. As these words attributed to Jesus by … Continue reading “Who is his forgiveness for according to Jesus? Those who repent.”
Nancy Ortberg shares her side re:Bill Hybels allegations
For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open. -Luke 8:17, NIV Today, Nancy Ortberg–who worked at Willow Creek Church as staff as well as a Board member of the Willow Creek Association for nine years–dropped a bomb of a … Continue reading “Nancy Ortberg shares her side re:Bill Hybels allegations”
Rev Bill Hybels resigns from Willow Creek Church. Storm not over.
***Update to my posts (here and here) on the Willow Creek Church and founder Rev. Bill Hybels situation where Hybels was accused of sexually inappropriate behavior*** Rev. Bill Hybels officially resigned last night from being the lead pastor at the megachurch he founded, Willow Creek Church. Here is a link to the official statement from … Continue reading “Rev Bill Hybels resigns from Willow Creek Church. Storm not over.”