Author: Divorce Minister

Transferring money is no more a sin than divorce.

For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs. -I Timothy 6:10, NIV Divorce is not sin. It is like transferring money from one account to another. The act itself is not a sin. However, the context … Continue reading “Transferring money is no more a sin than divorce.”

Broken Vase Illustration

Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been … Continue reading “Broken Vase Illustration”

Take Down That Fear Giant!

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. – 2 Timothy 1:7, NKJV The fear of man brings a snare, But whoever trusts in the Lord shall be safe. – Proverbs 29:25, NKJV -Are you anxious? -Do you worry about what crazy thing … Continue reading “Take Down That Fear Giant!”

I realized “killing with kindness” is kaput! The couch episode.

When I realized my kindness was not making any difference, I did the rare act of boundary enforcement. I refused to be used one last time. It was over a couch. The one pictured above with Mr. Pickles sprawled over it to be precise. A two piece lounge-like couch that was fantastically comfortable. I was … Continue reading “I realized “killing with kindness” is kaput! The couch episode.”

Disagreeing with Rick Warren’s Devotional on Reconciliation

In his devotional entitled: “Restoring Relationships: Take the Initiative,” Rick Warren writes, Whether you are the offender or the offended, God expects you to make the first move. Don’t wait for the other party. Go to that person first. I was horrified to read this coming from such a well-respected pastor. He used a paraphrase Bible, … Continue reading “Disagreeing with Rick Warren’s Devotional on Reconciliation”

New Page: “Testimonials”

What does Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously! existence mean to you? This is the question many of you answered earlier as I expressed how the existence of this ministry was under question. I have decided to compile them onto one location, and I invite you to continue answering the question in the comments there (link … Continue reading “New Page: “Testimonials””

“Unmet Needs” (Lie) Theory

The “Unmet Needs” Lie Theory This is the lie theory that teaches faithful spouses that their deficiencies at home is what drove the adulterous spouse to cheat. The faithful spouse was not sexually available enough. The faithful spouse was not emotionally adept and engaged enough. You know the drill. I have heard in horror how … Continue reading ““Unmet Needs” (Lie) Theory”