Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe. -Proverbs 29:25, NIV Fearing what the cheater or other Christians think of you is very real for faithful spouses. This fear is one of the many reasons faithful spouses stay stuck in abusive relationships where the … Continue reading “Fear God, Not “Man””
Author: Divorce Minister
Handling Self-Righteous, Religious Pricks
“And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? … Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye…” – Matthew 7:3, 5a, NLT When I was going through my trials, I had no shortage of religious people willing to “help” me see my “sin” or … Continue reading “Handling Self-Righteous, Religious Pricks”
A godly aversion.
The righteous detest the dishonest; the wicked detest the upright. -Proverbs 29:27, NIV When I was looking at this chapter in Proverbs, this particular verse jumped out at me. The language is awfully strong in its condemnation of dishonesty. I could not help but apply it to matters of infidelity. God’s heart towards dishonesty is … Continue reading “A godly aversion.”
Lock the doors, grieve the loss, and don’t be a jerk!
“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit.” -Psalm 34:18, NASB Metaphors, while being imperfect approximations, often can help us grasp difficult and complex truths conveying both intellectual and emotional freight with vivid imagery. Here’s my shot on explaining by metaphor why focusing on forgiveness first after adultery is cruel: Imagine … Continue reading “Lock the doors, grieve the loss, and don’t be a jerk!”
DM Wins #1 Christian Divorce Blog at Feedspot!
Today, I learned my blog was selected by Feedspot as a top ten blog in the category of “Christian Divorce Blogs!” In fact, my blog came in as #1 in this category! It is exciting to see this blog blossom as a recognized voice on the matter of divorce for Christians. I am truly humbled … Continue reading “DM Wins #1 Christian Divorce Blog at Feedspot!”
PSA: Christianity is NOT about getting to Heaven!
The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life. -John 10:10, NLT My former father-in-law (FIL) and former mother-in-law (MIL) adhered to a 1980s version of evangelical Christianity where it was about believing certain principles. While I appreciate the evangelical efforts of those … Continue reading “PSA: Christianity is NOT about getting to Heaven!”
Reminder: Don’t eat “rocks!”
The devil said to him, “If you are the Son of God, tell this stone to become bread.” Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone.’” – Luke 4:3-4, NIV Even legitimate needs can be filled illicitly. Today’s verses come from the story of The Great Temptation. It was Jesus versus Satan. And … Continue reading “Reminder: Don’t eat “rocks!””
But…but I want to stay married!!!
At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised.” -Job 1:20-21, NIV Shame … Continue reading “But…but I want to stay married!!!”
Cheater-speak: “God forgives me. So, what’s your problem?!”
Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV “God forgives me. So what’s your problem?!” -Cheater Does … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “God forgives me. So, what’s your problem?!””
Healing from Hypocrites
“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices—mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law—justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former.” -Matthew 23:23, NIV Healing from Religious Hypocrites A major learning curve for … Continue reading “Healing from Hypocrites”