Author: Divorce Minister

Where are the personal responsibility people when it comes to cheaters?!

Where are all the personal responsibility preachers when it comes to talking to cheaters?! -Much is made of the faithful spouse taking personal responsibility for “their part” in the divorce. -Much is made of the faithful spouse taking personal responsibility to forgive their cheater. (In fact, they feel compelled to “speak into” the faithful spouse’s … Continue reading “Where are the personal responsibility people when it comes to cheaters?!”

The warped world of a cheater

This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but people loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil. -John 3:19, NIV The Warped World of Cheaters When you have trouble admitting truth, your grip with reality will become looser and looser. Along with that loosening grip, your world will become warped. This … Continue reading “The warped world of a cheater”

Some People Just Prefer Looking “High-Minded” and “Neutral”

“The hottest places in Hell are reserved for those who in time of moral crisis preserve their neutrality.”  -John F. Kennedy (attributed wrongly to Dante) Considering all the people who love neutrality in the face of adultery discovery, this part of Hell must be rather crowded by now. Ha. Half-joking. Discovering adultery is certainly a … Continue reading “Some People Just Prefer Looking “High-Minded” and “Neutral””

If you are looking to you spouse…

Free Marriage Advice: If you are looking to your spouse to prove that you are lovable, you are looking to the wrong person. When we look to humans to fill a God-shaped hole, we will always be disappointed. Humans were never intended to “fix” us. Only God can satisfy the deepest longings in our souls. … Continue reading “If you are looking to you spouse…”

Want to really help someone move on? Acknowledge the injustice.

Want to really help a faithful spouse “move on” from being cheated on? Acknowledge the very real injustices they have experienced. Christians who are so fearful of faithful spouses “getting stuck in victimhood” fail to recognize this important lesson. They fail to see that the healing cannot begin without first seeing the wound for what … Continue reading “Want to really help someone move on? Acknowledge the injustice.”

If marriage is so sacred, why do you give marriage defilers a “pass?”

If marriage is so sacred, why do Christians and others give a pass to marriage defilers–aka adulterous spouses?! Like God divorcing Israel over repeated adulteries (see Jeremiah 3:8), it makes more sense to me that people who really think marriage is sacred would levy stiff consequences to those who defile it. So, I do not … Continue reading “If marriage is so sacred, why do you give marriage defilers a “pass?””

Rob Porter, Mormonism, and Religious Never-Divorce Pressure

Last week, Rob Porter resigned his position with the Trump White House. His two ex-wives had accused him of abusing them during their time married to him. Porter is Mormon, and a recent CNN article talks about the role their religious faith community played in their domestic abuse stories. ***To be clear: I am NOT … Continue reading “Rob Porter, Mormonism, and Religious Never-Divorce Pressure”

Teaching Basic Marriage Morality

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. -Ephesians 6:4, KJV Today was the day. I was driving Munchkin to a birthday party. It was being held at the dad’s house of a classmate. Munchkin informed me that her classmate’s parents live … Continue reading “Teaching Basic Marriage Morality”

God is our strength source.

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea; Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof. Selah. -Psalm 46:1-3, KJV The Lord is … Continue reading “God is our strength source.”