Here’s a prayer I wrote for anyone struggling letting go of anger towards a cheater and their apologist(s). This prayer serves as a reminder that we have a say in letting go of our anger, which is based on our trust in God’s character. Use as needed: Jesus, Today was a tough day. I am … Continue reading “A prayer of release”
Author: Divorce Minister
Willow Creek Church Update
This is just a short post to bring folks up to speed with the developments at Willow Creek Church in regards to the Bill Hybels alleged sexual harassment allegations, etc. Here is a link to a letter sent out to the members at Willow Creek Church (link here). Quoting from that letter (link above): As … Continue reading “Willow Creek Church Update”
Cheaters are capable.
There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword, But the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NASB Cheaters are capable of all sorts of evil in the effort to cover their sins. Pastors and other Christians need to become less naive on that matter. Cheaters are like addicts. They … Continue reading “Cheaters are capable.”
Still tough to tell.
When I open up to someone about what happened to me with my first marriage’s demise, I have found I still get upset if I share the full story. I have to fight the internal judge telling me that I “should” be detached in such recounting. I struggle to fight off the internal condemning voice … Continue reading “Still tough to tell.”
Fools and Foolish Arguments.
Don’t answer the foolish arguments of fools, or you will become as foolish as they are. -Proverbs 26:4, NLT If someone is not willing to listen, save your breath. They have made up their mind, and you are best moving on. You do not need to stick your head into that mind-blender. Move on. Let … Continue reading “Fools and Foolish Arguments.”
Be still and RELAX!
“Be still, and know that I am God!” – Psalm 46:10a, NLT When I was in the shock stage, I often found myself drawing a warm bath with lavender bath salts to ease my stress. I would play worship music to encourage my soul as I soaked in the tub before or after I went … Continue reading “Be still and RELAX!”
When your cheater is a pastor or therapist…
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT Letting go and trusting a cheater to God is tough. I think this is especially so when the cheater counsels others and works in a field where … Continue reading “When your cheater is a pastor or therapist…”
Don’t blame age!
Then Samuel asked, “Are these all the sons you have?” “There is still the youngest,” Jesse replied. “But he’s out in the fields watching the sheep and goats.” “Send for him at once,” Samuel said. “We will not sit down to eat until he arrives.” -I Samuel 16:11, NLT Not much has changed in … Continue reading “Don’t blame age!”
Watch out if she asks you for “rules!”
“This is the covenant I will make with the people of Israel after that time,” declares the LORD. “I will put my law in their minds and write it on their hearts. I will be their God, and they will be my people.” -Jeremiah 31:33, NIV If your spouse lacks an internal moral compass, then … Continue reading “Watch out if she asks you for “rules!””
On hundreds of messages exchanged
But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God. -John 3:21, NIV Graphic pictures of compromising behavior seems to be almost needed to convince some pastors and Christians that a spouse is violating their … Continue reading “On hundreds of messages exchanged”