In his devotional entitled: “Restoring Relationships: Take the Initiative,” Rick Warren writes, Whether you are the offender or the offended, God expects you to make the first move. Don’t wait for the other party. Go to that person first. I was horrified to read this coming from such a well-respected pastor. He used a paraphrase Bible, … Continue reading “Disagreeing with Rick Warren’s Devotional on Reconciliation”
Author: Divorce Minister
New Page: “Testimonials”
What does Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously! existence mean to you? This is the question many of you answered earlier as I expressed how the existence of this ministry was under question. I have decided to compile them onto one location, and I invite you to continue answering the question in the comments there (link … Continue reading “New Page: “Testimonials””
DM bought a house…
Mrs DM and I just signed the papers to purchase our first house together today! It is an exciting new chapter to our lives. I am glad for all this brings. The reason I share this is that the coming days my posts may be a bit more sporadic or may be recycled … Continue reading “DM bought a house…”
“Unmet Needs” (Lie) Theory
The “Unmet Needs” Lie Theory This is the lie theory that teaches faithful spouses that their deficiencies at home is what drove the adulterous spouse to cheat. The faithful spouse was not sexually available enough. The faithful spouse was not emotionally adept and engaged enough. You know the drill. I have heard in horror how … Continue reading ““Unmet Needs” (Lie) Theory”
John Piper is wrong on prohibiting divorce following adultery.
Pastor John Piper is a major figure in Reformed, Evangelical Christianity in the United States. He hails from Minnesota. Having heard him preach myself years ago, I would say that he is a very gifted communicator, and I do not doubt his passion for Christ. He strikes me as a man who is sincere about … Continue reading “John Piper is wrong on prohibiting divorce following adultery.”
“I’m concerned.” Others judging faithful spouses.
“Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.” -Matthew 7:1-2, KJV A common annoyance I encounter–and suspect other faithful spouses encounter as well–are Christians giving their unsolicited assessment of my state of healing. They … Continue reading ““I’m concerned.” Others judging faithful spouses.”
Price for “Support”
Hate evil and love what is good; turn your courts into true halls of justice. Perhaps even yet the Lord God of Heaven’s Armies will have mercy on the remnant of his people. -Amos 5:15, NLT Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is an online community where I do not blame the victims of adultery. Too often, I … Continue reading “Price for “Support””
Remember, the Angel Army Commander has your back!
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV When you go through a situation like discovering an unfaithful spouse, these are deep spiritual waters. It is spiritual warfare. I am convinced. The Enemy likes to use fear to … Continue reading “Remember, the Angel Army Commander has your back!”
Buffet from Hell – A Buffet of Bad Options
“‘If a man is found lying with a married woman, then both of them shall die, the man who lay with the woman, and the woman; thus you shall purge the evil from Israel.” -Deuteronomy 22:22, NASB. While much is made of God’s proclamation of hating divorce in Malachi 2:16, I fear that many pastors … Continue reading “Buffet from Hell – A Buffet of Bad Options”
Adultery is much bigger a problem than the singular sexual act!
“‘But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them. For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. These are what defile a person….’” – Jesus in Matthew 15:18-20a, NIV. While one act of adultery is horrible enough, I suspect … Continue reading “Adultery is much bigger a problem than the singular sexual act!”