A bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not snuff out. -Isaiah 42:3a, NIV Divorce Minister exists to a great part because it speaks to a need I felt in my darkest days. The need for pastoral affirmation and support while going through infidelity discovery and divorce. When my marriage was … Continue reading “The Pastoral Affirmation Need”
Author: Divorce Minister
Gift of Courageous Confrontation
It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. -I Corinthians 5:12, NLT The path of least resistance with a cheater “friend” is to agree with their sob-story over how they “were driven” to cheat on their spouse. But that is NOT the … Continue reading “Gift of Courageous Confrontation”
Bravo: “Luv Guv” Bentley Bounced By Baptist Pastor
[Pastor] McKee asked [Former Governor] Bentley and Mason [Other Woman] to admit to the ongoing affair. They admitted a relationship, but refused to publicly confess, Hannah said. McKee then removed Bentley from his leadership roles in the church and asked Bentley and Mason to leave First Baptist Tuscaloosa. -Dakin Andone reporting (CNN) in “Alabama ‘Luv … Continue reading “Bravo: “Luv Guv” Bentley Bounced By Baptist Pastor”
Cheater-speak: “I didn’t mean to hurt you.”
“I didn’t mean to hurt you.” -Cheater Whether or not the cheated intended to hurt the faithful spouse does not change the fact that they did! Such a statement from a cheater is more about caring for the cheater than it is about caring for the faithful spouse. The cheater is trying to protect their self-image … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “I didn’t mean to hurt you.””
Listen and Pray
So they sat down with him on the ground seven days and seven nights, and no one spoke a word to him, for they saw that his grief was very great. -Job 2:13, NKJV Discovering a spouse has abandoned you and/or cheated upon you is utterly devastating. Sometimes “all” you can do is listen and … Continue reading “Listen and Pray”
On Divorcing an Addict
But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. -I Corinthians 7:15, NKJV What ought a Christian do if he or she is married to someone with an opioid or meth addiction? ***IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER*** I am not … Continue reading “On Divorcing an Addict”
Happy Easter–Resurrection Sunday!
He is not here; he has risen, just as he said. Come and see the place where he lay. -Matthew 28:6, NIV To all those wondering if life exists after discovering infidelity and divorce, I would point to Resurrection Sunday. Hope exists even when it might look hopeless. I remember a particular Easter now five … Continue reading “Happy Easter–Resurrection Sunday!”
Mailbag: Repeated Emotional Affairs
Dear Divorce Minister, My husband has had emotional affairs during our marriage and has physically cheated once during the dating time while in a serious committed relationship (which was disclosed to the me 9 years into our marriage). While he says he’s never crossed the line physically during the marriage, there has been a series … Continue reading “Mailbag: Repeated Emotional Affairs”
Called Good Friday 4 Good Reasons!
“But this is your hour—when darkness reigns.” -Luke 22:53b, NIV Good Friday is good news for all who have experienced times when darkness reigned. What I mean about that is how the Cross speaks to the darkest of evil–namely, the killing of God–and yet also speaks to how that darkness cannot triumph even when it kills … Continue reading “Called Good Friday 4 Good Reasons!”
Ought NOT to be Radical!
14 Thou shalt not commit adultery. 15 Thou shalt not steal. 16 Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour. 17 Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s wife…. -Exodus 20:14-17a, KJV Apparently, a pastor taking adultery seriously is controversial! What has this world come to that a pastor insisting on obedience … Continue reading “Ought NOT to be Radical!”