Author: Divorce Minister

On Using “Biblical” Counseling Only

As for these four children, God gave them knowledge and skill in all learning and wisdom: and Daniel had understanding in all visions and dreams. …And in all matters of wisdom and understanding, that the king inquired of them, he found them ten times better than all the magicians and astrologers that were in all … Continue reading “On Using “Biblical” Counseling Only”

At what point does a faithful spouse become an enabler?

And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will … Continue reading “At what point does a faithful spouse become an enabler?”

Pastors OUGHT to be the best professionals to address adultery!

Thou shalt not commit adultery. -from the Ten Commandments (e.g. Exodus 20:14, KJV) Committing adultery is a sin. In fact, one cannot commit adultery without sinning in other ways including coveting, lying, stealing, and idolatry–i.e. worshiping something or someone as more important than God. A pastor ought to be the professional best equipped to understand and … Continue reading “Pastors OUGHT to be the best professionals to address adultery!”

A Conspicuous Absence In Pastoral Training!

If you spent even a little time looking over the required curriculum for M.Div. students at most evangelical seminaries, you will notice a heavy emphasis on Biblical languages and Scripture exegesis. In my former denomination, this emphasis is reflected in their ordaining process, which pushes candidates to memorize Scripture for each doctrine of interest to the … Continue reading “A Conspicuous Absence In Pastoral Training!”

Update: Freed Pastor Saeed Abedini Files To Divorce Naghmeh Abedini

Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable … not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. I Timothy 3:2a,3b (NIV) Related Post: “Naghmeh Abedini And Sorting My Painful History” Pastor Saeed Abedini is one of the five captives freed from Iran this past January. His … Continue reading “Update: Freed Pastor Saeed Abedini Files To Divorce Naghmeh Abedini”

Money Struggles Stress Test

  For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. -I Timothy 6:10, KJV Not having money is stressful! This is true individually as well as for marriages and families. It is difficult to deal … Continue reading “Money Struggles Stress Test”

Pro Tip: If another dude’s feelings are more important to your wife than yours…

He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church…. –Ephesians 5:28b-29, NIV PRO TIP: If another dude’s feelings are more important to your wife than yours, then that is a clear signal that your … Continue reading “Pro Tip: If another dude’s feelings are more important to your wife than yours…”

On Songs and Scents

This song by Josh Turner came on the radio the other day. Like songs and scents are liable to do, it transported me to another time. It reminded me of my first honeymoon. You see, we drove to our honeymoon location while this and other songs from this new-at-the-time album from Josh Turner played. It … Continue reading “On Songs and Scents”

Catchy Tune About Recovering…”It Don’t Hurt Like It Used To”

While I do not condone or recommend using alcohol to deal with heart-break, I appreciate some of the lessons this catchy tune from Billy Currington highlights about recovering.  Two points I particularly appreciate: The singer refuses to lie about the pain.  The pain and grief is worse if we refused to acknowledge the obvious: It hurts … Continue reading “Catchy Tune About Recovering…”It Don’t Hurt Like It Used To””