Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.* -Matthew 7:5, NIV If your cheater does not understand and affirm that the presence of the Other Man/Other Woman is a problem, then your marriage is doomed without any … Continue reading “When the cheater doesn’t see the problem…”
Author: Divorce Minister
Tweaking Blog Following Saturday’s MN BlogCon
Well, you have probably noticed some cosmetic changes on Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously. Last Saturday, I attended my first blogging conference in my home state, Minnesota. They gave me some ideas, and I have been tweaking my blog a little bit here and there since to try and extend my reach. Thanks for bearing … Continue reading “Tweaking Blog Following Saturday’s MN BlogCon”
Christians, you don’t have to be friends with your cheating ex! Really.
“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You travel over land and sea to win a single convert, and when you have succeeded, you make them twice as much a child of hell as you are.” -Matthew 23:15, NIV Public Service Announcement: Faithful spouses, you don’t have to become BFFs with … Continue reading “Christians, you don’t have to be friends with your cheating ex! Really.”
Stupid Stuff (Naive) Christians Say
Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues. -Proverbs 17:28 More Christians could learn from that fool from Proverbs 17:28 who held his tongue when it comes to marriages ravaged by adultery. Sadly, the advice and condemnation come all too freely for faithful spouses. Here a few … Continue reading “Stupid Stuff (Naive) Christians Say”
What’s up with that cheater rage?!
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. -Proverbs 29:11, NIV What’s up with that cheater rage?! You know: It is the rage that shows up when the cheater is caught red-handed. Instead of coming clean, the cheater comes after the faithful spouse with anger and a mean, demeaning … Continue reading “What’s up with that cheater rage?!”
Don’t fall for this one!
“In those days people will no longer say, ‘The parents have eaten sour grapes, and the children’s teeth are set on edge.’ Instead, everyone will die for their own sin; whoever eats sour grapes—their own teeth will be set on edge.” -Jeremiah 31:29-30, NIV I open with this passage to remind us of God’s idea … Continue reading “Don’t fall for this one!”
Mailbag: Is NOT divorcing my unrepentant cheater a sin?
“Not filing to divorce an unrepentant cheating spouse is also enabling but do you think it’s dishonoring Christ by not filing? Also, if that is the case (enabling and dishonoring Christ) wouldn’t not filing actually be a sin and against Gods will?” -Eric Eric, That’s a good set of questions. Let me boil them down to … Continue reading “Mailbag: Is NOT divorcing my unrepentant cheater a sin?”
Let’s Celebrate Faithful Spouses!
Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find? -Proverbs 20:6, NIV HERE’S TO THE FAITHFUL SPOUSES*: Did you catch that? You are rare. It says so in Scripture. God says it. So, it must be so. You possess a very valuable character trait–faithfulness. And if anyone knows how this character … Continue reading “Let’s Celebrate Faithful Spouses!”
Not nearly angry enough…with her!
God judgeth the righteous, and God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, KJV If anything, I was too mellow when it came to my (now) ex-wife’s cheating behavior! Most of my anger was directed at the proxy agents used by her to manipulate the narrative and keep me unbalanced. They did sinful … Continue reading “Not nearly angry enough…with her!”
Reminder: Adultery is Downright Demonic
“You are of your father the devil, and you want to do the desires of your father. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth because there is no truth in him. Whenever he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own nature, for he is a liar and the father of lies.” – John 8:44, NASB. If … Continue reading “Reminder: Adultery is Downright Demonic”