For lack of discipline they will die, led astray by their own great folly. -Proverbs 5:23, NIV …but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. -James 1:14, NIV The proverb quoted above comes at the end of a chapter where the wise teacher is giving instruction … Continue reading “Who is doing the leading astray?”
Author: Divorce Minister
Why bother with divorce then?!
To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. … But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother … Continue reading “Why bother with divorce then?!”
Don’t be their “play thing!”
So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. -Matthew 7:12, NIV One of the aspects of working with faithful spouses that disturbs me greatly is how their cheaters use them and essentially make them their “play things.” The cheater goes … Continue reading “Don’t be their “play thing!””
Fruit of God’s Remarriage
You will say then, “Branches were broken off so that I could be grafted in.” Granted. But they were broken off because of unbelief, and you stand by faith. Do not be arrogant, but tremble. For if God did not spare the natural branches, he will not spare you either. -Romans 11:19-21, NIV Often times, … Continue reading “Fruit of God’s Remarriage”
Faithful spouses, please do NOT “fight for your marriage.”
“‘If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife—with the wife of his neighbor—both the adulterer and the adulteress are to be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NIV Please do NOT fight for your marriage, faithful spouses! Doing that simply perpetuates the wrong idea that a cheater is entitled to a marriage they have discarded … Continue reading “Faithful spouses, please do NOT “fight for your marriage.””
It’s my birthday!
Another year and another birthday for me. So glad that I did not give into the despair four years ago! Life is too precious to allow a cheater and cohorts the power to have the last say on its value. God’s opinion matters more than theirs. Today, I am enjoying life at the top of my … Continue reading “It’s my birthday!”
Cheater-Speak: “Well, I never said anything bad about you to our friends.”
“Well, I never said anything bad about you to our friends.” -Cheater Show of virtual “hands:” Who has heard a version of this from his or her cheater? I “see” those “hands.” Permit me to share a couple observations of what is happening when a cheater speaks like this: 1. This is a damage control … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “Well, I never said anything bad about you to our friends.””
Learning from Jonah: Do NOT Build a “Smiting Shelter!”
Jonah had gone out and sat down at a place east of the city. There he made himself a shelter, sat in its shade and waited to see what would happen to the city. – Jonah 4:5, NIV And so, Jonah built himself a shelter to watch God, hopefully, smite the Ninevites. He made … Continue reading “Learning from Jonah: Do NOT Build a “Smiting Shelter!””
Cheaters are not “winners.”
So he swore an oath to him, selling his birthright to Jacob. Then Jacob gave Esau some bread and some lentil stew. He ate and drank, and then got up and left. So Esau despised his birthright. -Genesis 25:33-34, NIV My integrity is not for sale. It is very precious to me. If I break my promise, this valuing … Continue reading “Cheaters are not “winners.””
On Hearing God Amidst Infidelity Madness
For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children. -Romans 8:16, NLT So, you have discovered that your spouse has been unfaithful. He (or she) cheated on you and hid the double life with copious lies for months and possibly years. Now, you must decide what you do with new information. What does … Continue reading “On Hearing God Amidst Infidelity Madness”