“We have no money,” says Cheater. Funny how “no money” Cheaters always seem to find money to use on their affair partners. From meals to trips, they are flush when it comes to spending marital assets on someone else. That does not stop them from nitpicking their spouse’s spending, though. In those cases, “we” don’t … Continue reading “Funny how “no money” Cheaters…”
Augustine Quote on Anger
“Hope has two beautiful daughters: Anger and Courage. Anger that things are the way they are. Courage to make them the way they ought to be.” -Augustine. I ran across this quote attributed to Augustine the other day as I was reading about dealing with serial bullies (in Free Us From Bullying: Real Solutions Beyond Being … Continue reading “Augustine Quote on Anger”
No shame for you.
“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew 19:9, NIV I do not see a time limit set on these words. The exemption is there for anyone who has a spouse that engaged in sexually unfaithful behavior. That is what I see in … Continue reading “No shame for you.”
Not perfect. So, perfection is the standard?
“You shall not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, NIV So, you’re not perfect. Guess what? No one is. Even in happy marriages, spouses are imperfect. They sin against one another. I think this is especially so in youthful marriages as we’re all maturing and trying to figure out life. Just because you are not perfect does … Continue reading “Not perfect. So, perfection is the standard?”
Probably already smeared
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NIV Probably Already Smeared When Cheaters ask you not to say anything to others about their cheating, do not be naïve about them. They probably have already smeared your name with your mutual “friends” and family. What … Continue reading “Probably already smeared”
A reminder of a song
Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God… -I John 3:1, KJV When I find myself stressed, I find I need to be reminded of my place in God’s family. That worry is a symptom of my disconnect from God’s love. One … Continue reading “A reminder of a song”
Nothing to do with our marriage problems?
“He has nothing to do with our marriage problems. You know that!” -Caught Cheater If your cheater is responding with some version of this, your marriage is over. The cheater is refusing to face the fact that adultery is truly a MAJOR marriage problem. You have nothing to work with here. The cheater is firmly … Continue reading “Nothing to do with our marriage problems?”
Money Not Everything!
“For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.” -I Timothy 6:10, NIV Money isn’t everything, but it is hard to live without enough of it. This was one of the most terrifying things about … Continue reading “Money Not Everything!”
Baiting you
Stone is heavy and sand a burden, but a fool’s provocation is heavier than both. -Proverbs 27:3, NIV Baiting You Some Cheaters delight in pushing your buttons. They may especially enjoy doing this during therapy or with your pastor or in court. Nothing would delight them more than to paint you as neurotic or “angry.” … Continue reading “Baiting you”
Triggering Text – Proverbs 18:17
There are two sides to every story. The first one to speak sounds true until you hear the other side and they set the record straight. -Proverbs 18:17, TPT I was minding my own business reading a book about supernatural phenomenon and this verse was quoted. It sent me back immediately and emotionally to my … Continue reading “Triggering Text – Proverbs 18:17”