4 And he would not for a while: but afterward he said within himself, “Though I fear not God, nor regard man; 5 Yet because this widow troubleth me, I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me.” -Luke 18:4-5, KJV A while back, I remember a mentor, Pastor Gary Gilbertson, teaching on this … Continue reading “Wanted… by a pet”
Dear Younger Self
Dear 30 Year Old Self, It is going to be alright. Really, it is. I know that seems unlikely right now. Your world has been blown apart and the future seems bleak. Trust me: It gets better, much better! The chaplaincy internship that you are doing today will lead to a bright future for you. It … Continue reading “Dear Younger Self”
Blog has a birthday–12 Years!
Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously turns 12 years old today! This small ministry has made it over a decade in existence. It is hard to believe I have been writing for this long on this topic. I am so glad for all the people this website has helped. It is my way to give back … Continue reading “Blog has a birthday–12 Years!”
So Arrogant!
Do you see a man wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him. -Proverbs 26:12, NKJV Probably, the most spiritually deadly sin is arrogance. Cheaters are marked by oodles and oodles of pride and arrogance. It takes quite a bit of arrogance to cheat on your spouse and still think you … Continue reading “So Arrogant!”
So much GOOD life ahead!
Instead of your shame you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace you will rejoice in your inheritance. And so you will inherit a double portion in your land, and everlasting joy will be yours. -Isaiah 61:7, NIV So much GOOD life ahead of you! This past week I had the privilege to enjoy time up … Continue reading “So much GOOD life ahead!”
Flee Sexual Sin!
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. -I Corinthians 6:18, NIV Flee sexual sin! This is something not often taught upon when it comes to adultery, which qualifies as sexual immorality. The command to flee from this sort of sin … Continue reading “Flee Sexual Sin!”
Obliterating tide
Infidelity is like the incoming tide to your sand castle marriage. It obliterates all the hard work done to create a beautiful relationship. It undermines everything. Then it washes it all away like it was never there. Such is marital infidelity. Whether the sand castle was already falling down or whether it was a “Taj … Continue reading “Obliterating tide”
Called out for despising?!
“This is what the Sovereign Lord says: I will deal with you as you deserve, because you have despised my oath by breaking the covenant.” -Ezekiel 16:59, NIV Where are the pastors calling out cheaters for hating and despising their marriage covenant partners? I find it interesting that Christians are quick to judge the faithful … Continue reading “Called out for despising?!”
Let them be wrong and move along
Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! -Isaiah 5:20, KJV Part of the injustice faithful spouses often experience is a less than supportive community of people. Sometimes, even confessing Christians will not accept what … Continue reading “Let them be wrong and move along”
Cheater-Speak: “But that’s not why I am divorcing you!”
“Yes, I slept with him. But that is not why I am divorcing you,” says remorseless Cheater. A cheater saying such a thing is a cheater who is desperate to control how people see them in the divorce. They understand that Christians may look upon them poorly once their adultery is known. So, they want … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “But that’s not why I am divorcing you!””