“This is what the Sovereign Lord says: I will deal with you as you deserve, because you have despised my oath by breaking the covenant.”

-Ezekiel 16:59, NIV

Where are the pastors calling out cheaters for hating and despising their marriage covenant partners?

I find it interesting that Christians are quick to judge the faithful spouse as “hateful” or “bitter,” but they will NOT judge the cheater. Cheaters are “off limits” for some strange reason even though we are called to judge them (see I Corinthians 5).

Yet the focus needs to be upon the covenant breakers!

Adulterous partners need to know the community does not take kindly to such spiteful behavior. They need to have no illusions of acceptance for treating their partner with such contempt and hatred as that is what cheating is.

They need to cut through the Cheater BS that they “didn’t mean to hurt” their partner. Cheaters need a mirror placed in front of them and for them to see the ugliness of their behavior. This is what is needed to push them towards godly repentance.

Intentions do not really matter. Their behavior was abusive and spiteful. Actions shout the reality of their cruelty towards their spouse.

It IS that bad! We need to stop softening the image of how awful and unacceptable this behavior is. Cheaters are choosing abuse and hate. It is evil and truly wicked.

It is past time to start calling out Cheaters for despising their spouses!