18 Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. 19 Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert. -Isaiah 43:18-19, KJV Discovering cheating can launch one into a season of … Continue reading “Interesting Stuck Phenomenon”
Could’ve stayed stuck
In his mercy, God knew I probably would have held onto my first marriage well beyond what was good for me. So, my ex filed on me, and I decided fighting the divorce was not worth it. I was not going to fight against a divorce that a cheater was seeking. That was her choice–yet … Continue reading “Could’ve stayed stuck”
Did not care (when I should have)
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT When my (now) ex-wife confessed an emotional affair, I did not take it seriously. Honestly, I did not care. This was a criticial error on my part. … Continue reading “Did not care (when I should have)”
Unchosen path
“…when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go.” -John 21:18b, NIV Unfortunately, I was the first. Somehow, my huge family had never experienced a divorce on either side of the immediate family at that time. But I … Continue reading “Unchosen path”
More concerned with how you found out!
Pro-Tip: When the cheater is more concerned about how you found out than the damaged they did to you, then you know they are not remorseful. This is the behavior of someone who is looking for the source of the leaked information. People ask such questions to continue their behavior. They are looking to plug … Continue reading “More concerned with how you found out!”
“You never really know what happens in a marriage.”
“You never really know what happens in a marriage,” says “friend.” If this is how your “friend” responds to your disclosure of infidelity abuse, you need to find a new, true friend. This person does not want to face a difficult truth and is telling you their unwilling to be supportive of you. Again, there … Continue reading ““You never really know what happens in a marriage.””
A lifestyle of lying
19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved. -John 3:19-20, KJV I have a theory about why some cheaters refuse to … Continue reading “A lifestyle of lying”
God did NOT send them an affair partner!
God is never tempted to do wrong, and he never tempts anyone else. -James 1:13b, NLT God did not send the Other Woman (OW) or Other Man (OM) into your spouse’s life. It is sad that this even needs to be stated. However, I am sure plenty of readers here have heard their cheater try … Continue reading “God did NOT send them an affair partner!”
Then the pieces fit.
Relief. The months of stone-cold or downright cruel responses. Warmth disappearing overnight like a Minnesotan May blizzard. It all started to make sense. I wasn’t imagining things. The Other Man. He existed. Had existed for months! This is one of the strangest and most surreal parts of discovering infidelity. The moment of confirmation is not only … Continue reading “Then the pieces fit.”
Here’s to amazing moms!
Happy Mother’s Day to you, faithful spouses! To all those faithful mothers–whether physical or spiritual–may you enjoy your special day today. I hope your spoil yourself as you deserve it!