“I just was trying to get your attention [by cheating on you],” says Cheater. Whether they frame it as a “cry for help” or blame it as caused by the marriage conditions, the same mechanism is at work: The cheater is trying to use the cheating as a means to manipulate the faithful spouse to … Continue reading “Cheating as manipulation”
Attention Addiction
“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV I am convinced some cheaters are just addicted to the sexual or romantic attention of others. They love the high of being pursued. This is why the typical Christian advice of pursuing … Continue reading “Attention Addiction”
I wonder.
You know how I am scorned, disgraced and shamed; all my enemies are before you. -Psalm 69:19, NIV I wonder… …how many “friends” knew she was cheating on me? This is one mystery that will likely forever remain unsolved. I do suspect the number who knew was far more than I would wish were the case. … Continue reading “I wonder.”
“Not my truth.”
“That’s not my truth! God wants me to be happy,” cries an exposed Cheater. Cheaters are big on trying to control how people perceive them. They will go through all sort of word-gymnastics to avoid the real truth. When someone dares to point out what they are doing is sin, they will twist the … Continue reading ““Not my truth.””
Bday! Mine.
Today is my birthday. I am grateful I am around to celebrate it. This was brought into question for me when I was in the darkest of places over a decade ago dealing with a cheating spouse. Life is such a gift! This past weekend I was in the Chicago area doing a powerlifting meet. … Continue reading “Bday! Mine.”
Adultery as an escape
An adulterous woman consumes a man, then wipes her mouth and says, “What’s wrong with that?” -Proverbs 30:20, NLT Some Cheaters “escape” the mundane issues of their lives into a fantasy world with their affair partner(s). You can never compete with this as the adulterous relationship is based on a fantasy–and not the reality of … Continue reading “Adultery as an escape”
Parenting love
See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are! -I John 3:1a, NLT Do we believe this about how the Father views us? I believe this is the fundamental question for spiritual health. When I struggle with fear or worth issues, I usually am … Continue reading “Parenting love”
Love darkness
And the judgment is based on this fact: God’s light came into the world, but people loved the darkness more than the light, for their actions were evil. -John 3:19, NLT Some people will choose the darkness over the light. This was true in Jesus’ day, and it is certainly true today. A wise person … Continue reading “Love darkness”
Disappointment and Joseph
Then he [Joseph] had another dream, and he told it to his brothers. “Listen,” he said, “I had another dream, and this time the sun and moon and eleven stars were bowing down to me.” -Genesis 37:9, NIV I bet Joseph had a very different expectations for how his life than the reality he … Continue reading “Disappointment and Joseph”
Creature Reminders
29 What is the price of two sparrows—one copper coin? But not a single sparrow can fall to the ground without your Father knowing it. -Matthew 10:29, NLT Recently, one of my dear parrot buddies ended up getting injured. We had to rush him an hour North to an emergency Veterinarian visit. Fortunately, he seems like … Continue reading “Creature Reminders”