7 Then the king and his nobles sent this decree throughout the city: “No one, not even the animals from your herds and flocks, may eat or drink anything at all. 8 People and animals alike must wear garments of mourning, and everyone must pray earnestly to God. They must turn from their evil ways and stop … Continue reading “People of Nineveh: Models in true repentance”
Bad enough…for you!
A cheater does not need to be a total monster in order to be bad for you. I suspect most cheaters (if not all) have some “redeeming” qualities about themselves. If they didn’t, we probably never would have married them in the first place. They are mix–like all of us–of good and bad traits. But … Continue reading “Bad enough…for you!”
Honesty of no ring
Some cheaters will remove their wedding ring while cheating. Mine was still cheating and lying with her wedding ring removed. Her anger was almost palpable when I mentioned seeing it gone in my confrontation with her over the Other Man. Denying her sexual infidelity with this man (later confirmed as a lie in writing to … Continue reading “Honesty of no ring”
An excellent article about financial infidelity and cheating
Cheating sexually and financially sadly go hand and hand. Today’s post is simply a shout out to an article written by Chump Lady, Tracy Shorn, found in The Girlfriend from AARP. The article is entitled: “When Your Spouse Cheats On You — Financially.” This article shares a particularly horrifying experience where a cheater was literally … Continue reading “An excellent article about financial infidelity and cheating”
Shout out to faithful spouses courageously choosing divorce!
Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly. -Mathew 1:19, NIV Sometimes divorce is the best of the bad options left. Today, I want to celebrate the courageous ones. The divorced who chose ridicule … Continue reading “Shout out to faithful spouses courageously choosing divorce!”
Dear DM, Is divorce okay in my situation?
Hi Pastor Dave (DM): I think I am doing the right thing in allowing or agreeing to my divorce. I have your book and have started reading through it. Maybe you touch on it later. So far the book is focusing mainly on affairs where there has been physical contact/adultery. Here is my situation: In … Continue reading “Dear DM, Is divorce okay in my situation?”
Justice and forgiveness
Trusting God with our hurts is hard. Forgiveness is about doing just that, though. It is allowing God be God in our situation. But forgiving our cheater is nearly impossible if we believe we care more about justice than God. Justice matters to God. He did not just give sin a pass. It isn’t … Continue reading “Justice and forgiveness”
Cheater-Speak: What’s wrong with having friends?!
“Beware of false prophets who come disguised as harmless sheep but are really vicious wolves.” -Matthew 7:15, NLT “Aren’t I allowed to have ‘friends?!’” -Cheater I think this is one of the most dangerous tools at the disposal of cheaters. It effectively puts the faithful spouse on the defensive as he or she tries … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: What’s wrong with having friends?!”
Forgiveness does not erase natural consequences!
13 Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “The Lord has taken away your sin. You are not going to die. 14 But because by doing this you have shown utter contempt for the Lord, the son born to you will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NIV God forgave David for murder and adultery. It says so here. However, God … Continue reading “Forgiveness does not erase natural consequences!”
Dating again? Pro-tip: Find a bad liar.
Dating again? My recommendation is to find someone who is not very good at lying. Put in more positive framing: Find a transparent and honest person. My ex-wife was very good at lying. I suspect many can relate to this statement who come here as well. Was your cheater an accomplished liar, too? Some cheaters … Continue reading “Dating again? Pro-tip: Find a bad liar.”