Dumb stuff “Christians” say

Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues. -Proverbs 17:28 More Christians could learn from that fool from Proverbs 17:28 who held his tongue when it comes to marriages ravaged by adultery. Sadly, the advice and condemnation come all too freely for faithful spouses.  Here a few … Continue reading “Dumb stuff “Christians” say”

No “Smiting Shelters” Allowed!

Jonah had gone out and sat down at a place east of the city. There he made himself a shelter, sat in its shade and waited to see what would happen to the city. – Jonah 4:5, NIV   And so, Jonah built himself a shelter to watch God, hopefully, smite the Ninevites. He made … Continue reading “No “Smiting Shelters” Allowed!”

Life legacy and fleeting nature of our lives

Our days on earth are like grass; like wildflowers, we bloom and die. -Psalm 103:15, NLT How fleeting and short life is. This was impressed upon me recently when a good friend was killed with his wife in a car accident. We do not know when our final day is. A cheater lives as if … Continue reading “Life legacy and fleeting nature of our lives”

Cheating to “get attention”

“I had to cheat to get your attention.” -Cheater This is an especially sick cheater-speak. The cheater trades on a truth–namely, the affair got your attention. This obscures the lie that only an affair could get your attention and/or such a means justifies the ends. Plenty of things will get another person’s attention that we should not do! … Continue reading “Cheating to “get attention””

A good pastor eases your fears and brings comfort.

“I will place shepherds over them who will tend them, and they will no longer be afraid or terrified, nor will any be missing,” declares the Lord. -Jeremiah 23:4, NIV When going through adultery discovery and divorce, it is hard to know which pastor to trust.  Does this one care more for “saving” my marriage or … Continue reading “A good pastor eases your fears and brings comfort.”

Don’t give up on God, faithful spouse!

Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him. -James 1:12, NIV The temptation to give up on God is great when going through the spiritual abuse that often comes with a divorce from a … Continue reading “Don’t give up on God, faithful spouse!”

It is not you, faithful spouse.

When a cheater cheats, it is important to understand that such behavior has nothing to do with you, faithful spouse. It is about the cheater’s character. These sinful actions are the overflow of wickedness in the cheater’s heart (see Mark 7:21-23). Do not let a pastor or a cheater or a counselor convince you otherwise! … Continue reading “It is not you, faithful spouse.”